Number of Pages: 304
Dimensions: 8.50 X 5.50 (inches)
Women in Travail and Transition.Fortress Press / 1990 / Trade Paperback$23.75
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times best-selling author with his books selling more than 10 million copies. As a speaker, Dr. Cloud has shared the stage with many business and global leaders and experts, such as Tony Blair, Jack Welch, Condoleezza Rice, Desmond Tutu, Malala Yousafzai, and others. In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. Cloud works with Fortune 500 companies and smaller private businesses alike. He has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEO's, leadership teams and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy.
Dr. John Townsend is a leadership consultant, psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. He has written twenty-seven books, selling 10 million copies, including the 3 million-selling Boundaries series. John is founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and conducts the Townsend Leadership program. He travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking, and working with leadership families. He and his wife Barbi have two sons, and live in Newport Beach, California. One of John's favorite hobbies is playing in a band that performs in Southern California lounges and venues.
reliWIAge: 25-34Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Excellent ReadNovember 28, 2017reliWIAge: 25-34Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5When to say yes
How to say no
to take control of your life
Where do I start with this book? It was excellent, let's start there. While, for the most part, I don't feel like my life is out of control, it was good to hear confirmation that sometimes saying no to something good is not bad. Even if we feel guilty, it's not wrong. That was probably a key piece for me.
Another thing I really liked about the book was the section on boundaries with children. Allowing children to be able to say no without fearing a loss of their parent's love enables them to be better equipped to have good boundaries when they are older. This doesn't mean the child is allowed to run wild with no discipline, to me it means that my child is allowed to not want something without me threatening not to love them. I don't know if that makes sense or not, I'm still not sure if I fully understand all of how it works.
But it does seem that a child who was controlled and manipulated and not given choices in their early years can become a controlled, manipulated doormat when they become older because to refuse to do what someone said meant they were going to be unloved or anger was going to be unleashed and so they just go with the flow. And this can lead to harmful circumstances. Okay, just read the book to fully grasp that.
There's also a really good chapter on Boundaries and the Digital Age, not letting technology control you and being able to go offline for a few hours or days without going crazy and not being deathly afraid you are missing out on something.
Another good chapter is on Boundaries and Yourself. Ways that we can be out of control of our own lives include food, money, task completion, time management, sexuality, and words. John and Henry give you ways of identifying a lack of boundaries and ways to establish boundaries with yourself.
This was a very good book and I would especially recommend it to anyone who feels like their life is out of control and they feel powerless to change it. I feel that this book is very Biblically based, otherwise I would hesitate to recommend it.
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Sunday4 Stars Out Of 5Boundaries by Drs Cloud and TownsendNovember 22, 2017SundayQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0Very good book for the serious minded individual who is on his way to excellence
PF5 Stars Out Of 5Must read for everyoneSeptember 23, 2017PFQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0Perfect book for the person who feels they have to "please everyone, make everyone happy, and put aside their own feelings and emotions".
Debbie G4 Stars Out Of 5Good with help from the Holy SpiritAugust 4, 2017Debbie GQuality: 4Value: 4Meets Expectations: 4A few years ago a professing christian recommended this book to me because she discerned I needed help with setting boundaries. I read this book and really appreciated the scriptures and that they show the biblical principles behind what they teach in the book. We all need to learn how to set boundaries in our life and what love is -- that we are not called to be "doormats" for Christ. The greatest commandment is to love and we need God to give us understanding on what that means. With the help of the Holy Spirit and discernment, this book really helped me. I still need to go over it and reread it. I think it is a book that will be useful for more than one reading as you put it into practice. Above all we should pray and ask God to guide us in all things we read.
ridge7655 Stars Out Of 5Everyone should read this bookDecember 23, 2016ridge765Quality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Seriously. Even YOU.
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Q: Is this book same as mine? Sorry if this is a seemingly illiterate question, but my copy of this book has a different cover. I would like to lead a small group study and they would be getting their books/workbooks from here. The ISBN numbers are an exact match, as are the titles, does that make it safe to assume they are one in the same, with only different covers? Your help is greatly appreciated. May God bless you!
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