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Do you find it challenging to create and keep meaningful friendships? Popular blogger Hoover offers women a biblical foundation for these important relationships; gives you practical tools for cultivating and deepening them; tells stories that remind you that messiness is normal; and more. A fresh vision for intentionally and purposefully investing in this God-given role
Number of Pages: 240
Vendor: Baker Books
Publication Date: 2017
|Dimensions: 8.50 X 5.50 (inches)|
- what's holding them back from developing satisfying friendships
- how to make and deepen friendships
- how to overcome insecurity, self-imposed isolation, and past hurts
- how to embrace the people God has already placed in their lives as potential friends
- and how to revel in the beauty and joy of everyday friendship
With stories of real friendships and guidance drawn from Scripture, Hoover encourages women to intentionally and purposefully invest in one of the most rewarding relationships God has given us.
Chris5 Stars Out Of 5A practical theology of friendshipJune 12, 2017ChrisQuality: 4Value: 4Meets Expectations: 4Good books on a Christian view of friendship are rare. It is one of those topics which hasn't been explored much. Thankfully, over the past several years, several books have come out exploring a theology of friendship. Messy Beautiful Friendship is a commendable title in that field. It is a practical theology of friendship, addressing our unrealistic expectations and false views of friendship, while also helping us learn how to be a good friend. Written with women as the primary audience in mind, this is nonetheless a helpful book on friendship for men as well (who aren't typically known for being good at talking about relationships and freely showing emotions). This would be a good book to read with a reading group or church small group.
Crystal5 Stars Out Of 5Welcome to the Hard Work of Friendship!June 1, 2017CrystalQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0Despite the playground memories vowing to our besties that we would be best friends forever and ever, adult friendships can be hard! Hoover unpacks friendship from a Biblical perspective in Messy Beautiful Friendship unfolding the layers of what makes a good friendship along with the beauty and strength that trials add to them. This book is not what you might expect- it is not frilly or weepy, but rather causes the reader to ask themselves the hard questions about what friendship myths they have naively believed and what significant steps the reader has taken to bridge the gift of friendship to other women.
This book was very timely for me personally as I not only had a crisis in a friendship within the last year, but have also in the same time period been introduced to some amazing women that I admire and desire to build deep, lasting friendships with. Hoovers book helped me drop the friendship pity party and embrace a new way of viewing friendships. Well worth the read!
This review contains my own thoughts and opinions. I received an advance copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.
AmyL5 Stars Out Of 5Learning to embrace Messy Beautiful FriendshipMay 27, 2017AmyLQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5In Messy Beautiful Friendship, Christine Hoover shares how those messy packages can often be the most beautiful.
Hoover invites us to consider how we're viewing friendship as a whole. She gives us a whole new vision for how we see and approach friendship.
When we hold an ideal of friendship in our minds, believing it's attainable, we hold a standard above the heads of real women God has placed in our lives, and then we wonder why we're constantly disappointed by the realities, complexities, and difficulties in our relationships.
This quote sums up a good portion of the book for me. It's the reminder that when we dream of things, we can often blow things out of proportion - whether it's good or bad. When we bring those unrealistic dreams into friendship, Hoover suggests - and I'm inclined to agree - that's where disaster strikes. We find ourselves alone because we fail to be vulnerable with one another. We fail to step into the others' shoes and explore what it looks like to be open and honest.
I so appreciated Hoover's look at what threatens our friendships too. When we look at how fear interrupts our ability to be friends, we can break through those barriers with truth. Without being pushy, Messy Beautiful Friendship will push you towards stepping out and going first. I'm not one who likes being told what to do, but Hoover isn't pushy. She just shows you how it can be better when you do step out of your comfort zone. It will take you deeper and help you discover friendships you might not have imagined.
Relationship isn't the same as friendship.
It's more. So much more.
One of the biggest takeaways from this book for me was the reminder to make space. There was a beautiful reminder to examine the priorities in life. I say that I want friendship to be valued in my life, but am I actually making that space? Am I placing a priority on spending time with friends, or am I allowing all the other things of life to get in the way?
Another big value is the idea that more than friendship, we are building relationships. We are building a way of doing life with one another. We build those Messy Beautiful Friendships when we step into life together. When we allow the muddy handprints on the windows and dirty laundry on the floor to stop deterring us from spending time together.
When we embrace the idea of Messy Beautiful friendship, we find greater relationships and learn how to do life with one another.
I received a copy of this book from Baker Books. This review is my own, honest opinion.
Deuce SkunksSpringfield, MOAge: 25-34Gender: Female5 Stars Out Of 5Great Suggestions For Finding And Developing Lasting FriendshipsMay 13, 2017Deuce SkunksSpringfield, MOAge: 25-34Gender: FemaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Messy Beautiful Friendship: Finding And Nurturing Deep And Lasting Relationshipsby Christine Hoover is written for Christian women who find themselves wondering when friendship became so difficult.
In elementary school, friends were easy to come by. Kids in our class or that we ran into on the playground, the neighbors or children of our parent's friends. Our friends were other kids that we spent time with, had very little in common with,and found things to do together anyway.
As we got older, our choice in friends became more personal and less situational. Enter adulthood, and things like political views and marital status suddenly play a factor in deciding who our friends are. And yet, we feel like we're missing out on so much.
Christine walks us throughpersonal stories (many from her own life)to demonstrate what our new idea of friendship should look like, things that are hazardous to friendships, how to discover friendships or deepen the ones you already have (and often times don't value enough), how to be a friend, and how to be open to receiving the gift of friendship in your life.
Throughout the book, Christine frequently reminds us that our greatest friend (and highest priority) is our relationship with Jesus. All of our earthly friends are to be considered a gift from God, not a replacement for Him. He is the first one we should take our troubles to or share our joys with. After that, we thank Him for our friends here on earth that will also share in our sorrows and our celebrations. Christine emphasizes that while some friendships last much longer than others, the only one that we can count on eternally is the one with our Heavenly Father. He is our greatest friend and our greatest treasure.
There are discussion questions, key concepts, and Scripture verses referencing friendships included in the back of the book, to make this an engaging personal study and journey to discover what friendship means to you, and what you can do to better cherish the friendships that God has already blessed you with. 5/5 stars.
*Disclaimer: I received a free print copy of this book from Baker Books for the purpose of this honest review. All opinions are my own.*
Heather5 Stars Out Of 5This book is so needed for women!May 13, 2017HeatherQuality: 0Value: 0Meets Expectations: 0I love Christine's down-to-earth style of writing. She instantly connects with you, and this subject is so needed for us as women. She challenges us to step out in friendship, and press through the hard times, but also encourages us that friendship with other women is such a blessing and gift from God.