This book was such a great help, in my battle with sexual temptation, I would recommend the book to every man that has any type of problem dealing with sexual temptation. I really enjoyed that they also provided a female side at end of each chapter.
This particular subject really hits hard in a personal way. I struggled with lust since I was a teen, and at times it still haunts me_ As this lust was apart of my life I would grow to despise it mentally, though certainly enjoy it physically; this was even before I became a Christian. When I got saved, I ESPECIALLY knew dabbling in lust and pornography was wrong, and through various efforts sought to turn away from it. For a time I had heard about this book, but for some reason I never picked it up until recently. I wanted to read this, because I heard so many good things about it. I also wanted to read this, because of my personal encounter with sexual sin; where at times I'd win and lose battles against it_
Every Man's Battle is a book which touches on just that, a sin which every man ought to be battling: Lust. Fred and others expose not only how ugly sexual sin is for single and married men, but also for children, fathers, and even pastors and youth leaders too. This goes deep and even a little graphic into some of the thoughts/experiences men have andor are capable of having. Since Fred and others are speaking of an enemy worth fighting against, they also give readers a battle strategy too.
Some reading bits of Every Man's Battle might say: "There is no way some of these anecdotes are real" , but as a man who has struggled with sexual sin I can testify what they wrote is easily relatable. Indeed I have had moments where lust has plagued my thoughts, but Fred and the others expanded this issue further than I expected. I strongly agree with most of what they say in this book, and feel if one pursues the game plan they set for the reader most will be able to overcome this monster. I like the strong use of scripture, since God needs to be man's greatest ally in this fight, and I also liked the workbook included too. Of course, one thing I questioned was when they said slow dancing was a form of foreplay; I say this depending on what they define as "slow dancing". Otherwise I feel this is an essential book!
This book really addressed battles that were hurting my marriage unknowingly. I was also not aware of their impact on me spiritually, but I now realize how much sexual immorality is offensive to God which had hurt my relationship with Him. This book can definitely make my marriage more of the way God intended.
I first read this book about 5 years ago. God did use this book to help me grow in sexual purity. However the tips and techniques that the book teaches are ineffective. For months I fought, and fought, and fought to not look a second time at women. I thought it finally worked and had me 'cured', but that was not the case. Where is the work of God in this? Where is the change of heart that is needed? Sure, I can fight to not look, but without a changed heart the book completely misses the point. Even if I can 'bounce the eyes' every time, yet my heart remains unchanged, what is the point?
We don't need more techniques to become better Christians. It will always fail. Such were the Pharisees in Jesus time. They built rules and traditions around God's laws, 'just to be safe'. Yet their hearts were unchanged. Outwardly they kept the law, and then some. But inwardly their hearts were adulterous, sinful, and wicked. I see the tips and techniques that this book offers as similar to the rules and laws that the Pharisees created for themselves. Men need changed hearts, not mere techniques and 'battle plan' that leave God out of the picture.
I'm curious to know if indeed the authors are still able to 'bounce' their eyes continually, or if they too fail to keep their own techniques for purity.