Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted: Biblical Direction for Friends, Family Members, and Those Struggling with Homosexuality
Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted: Biblical Direction for Friends, Family Members, and Those Struggling with Homosexuality  -     By: Ron Citlau
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Format: Paperback
Number of Pages: 176
Vendor: Bethany House
Publication Date: 2017
Dimensions: 8.50 X 5.50 (inches)
ISBN: 0764218689
ISBN-13: 9780764218682

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Helping the Same-Sex Attracted Faithfully Follow Jesus

As Christians seek to be biblically faithful on the issue of homosexuality, two fundamental questions come to mind: How can a person with same-sex attraction faithfully follow Jesus in his or her sexuality? And how can we support and encourage them in this?

With compassion and wisdom--on a topic rife with misunderstanding and hurt--author and pastor Ron Citlau will help you think deeply and clearly about every option the Bible offers, and what it clearly does not. Having personally dealt with same-sex attraction, walked with others still struggling, and pastored those with gay loved ones, he thoroughly examines all of the available options--heterosexual marriage, singleness, celibacy, and more--and considers them in light of the Scriptures.

With clarity and grace, he helps you discover the remarkable gifts God provides to the Christian who struggles with same-sex attraction and desires to faithfully follow Jesus. Here is a message of hope and practical, loving guidance for those who are same-sex attracted--and those who love them.

Author Bio

Ron Citlau serves as senior pastor of Calvary Church near Chicago. Ron is coauthor of Compassion Without Compromise (with Adam Barr) and helped produce curriculum on sexual healing now used by Desert Stream Ministries in hundreds of churches throughout the country. Ron lives with his wife, Amy, in Chicago.

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  1. Mark
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    helpful and encouraging
    June 8, 2017
    Mark
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    There are a lot of books on the Christian market about homosexuality/same-sex attraction. I have read a lot of them, and feel this is one of the better ones out there.

    The title of the book is "Hope for the Same-sex attracted, and that is what the author does. Often in discussions about this issue, the person dealing with SSA gets lost in the discussion. I can attest personally that it is a very difficult thing to deal with, but this author gets it and has put onto paper not just how others can help people with SSA, but shows that there is indeed hope for we who deal personally with SSA.

    The first part of the book deals with the obstacles we face. The second section deals with the gifts we have that can be of help to us. The third section is final thoughts with a message for church leaders, and a last word of hope for the same-sex attracted.

    This is an interesting and helpful book not just for the same-sex attracted, but also for those wanting to better understand the issue and be a help to those dealing with it. I highly recommend it,

    I was given a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
  2. Super duper small print!
    4 Stars Out Of 5
    Christians and Homosexuality
    June 4, 2017
    Super duper small print!
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted by Ron Citlau is written by a pastor who has struggled with same sex attractedness during his own life. This book is a teaching book--more sermon than memoir, but filled with personal acknowledgements. It is different than other books I've read because it is more cut and dried, straight to the point. I appreciate the topics Mr. Citlau tackles such as marriage and whether it can be a help or a hinderance to someone who struggles with homosexuality. He cites Scripture throughout his book. He begins with tackling the primary issue at hand--one of identity. I think it is wise that he begins there because claiming that something is "my identity", or is "just the way I am" along with a belief that God wants me to be happy is the justification many people use for all sorts of bad decisions--from having affairs, to leaving their spouses, to using marijuana... I think this book starts in a good place and tackles some difficult topics that others don't.

    If you're looking for a book on this topic that explains why homosexuality is a sin and how to love people who struggle with it, or if you are a Christian who struggles with homosexuality, this book may give you some food for thought.

    Please note that I received a complimentary copy of this book from Bethany House publishers for review, but these opinions are my own.
  3. Victory Girl
    NW Washington
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: female
    4 Stars Out Of 5
    A Godly Perspective
    May 13, 2017
    Victory Girl
    NW Washington
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    I found "Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted" by Ron Citlau to be an enlightening and encouraging book about what many churches look at as a taboo subject. I've often heard in churches to love the sinner but hate the sin, but in reality, it often doesn't look that way. Not knowing how to respond to people who are struggling with homosexuality and how it relates to their faith can cause a lot of hurt for everyone.

    I appreciated the author's insight from working through his own like challenges, and found that although his recommendations would be very controversial in our current liberal culture, he is working from Biblical perspective not cultural perspective.

    This book would be beneficial for those struggling with same-sex attraction (and their families and friends), but only if that person desires change.

    I received this book from the publisher for my honest opinion.
  4. Melissa
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Powerful and timely
    April 26, 2017
    Melissa
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    What a powerful and timely book. This addresses some very important topics that I think we have trouble putting into words. This will give you language to address some things that, as Christians, we know isnt Gods plan.

    I do think the first step is admitting the homosexuality is a sin. If people arent there or dont believe that they wont even pay attention to this book. They may not have to even believe that its a sin but they need to be in a place where they are uncomfortable with that lifestyle. I feel if they are accepting that as their identity they wont care what this book has say.

    With that being said, it does give those that do believe it is sin a place to start, a way to dialogue about this topic.

    It does boil down to identity. In the very beginning Ron says something I underlined. Page 32 he says, Today, sexual identity seems to be tied up in sexual desire. If you have a desire for someone then that defines your sexual identity, and our work is to be true to ones self and pursue that desire. Hes not saying that is right but that is what the world has decided.

    That would be like someone who is attracted to someone other then their husband saying, I am just an adulteress. I cant remain faithful to my husband so I am going to be with any man I chose. Most of the world, Christian or not, agrees that is not okay. That is called cheating on someone. Just because you desire something you dont have to make that your identity. Jesus can redeem that just as He can redeem any sin.

    If you know someone struggling with same-sex attraction or you just want some things to think about regarding this issue this book is a great place to start.

    A copy of this book was given to me by the publisher. All opinions are my own.
  5. shelbyb
    3 Stars Out Of 5
    New Book, Old Hope
    April 7, 2017
    shelbyb
    Quality: 3
    Value: 3
    Meets Expectations: 3
    "Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted," subtitled "Biblical Direction for Friends, Family Members, and Those Struggling with Same-Sex Attraction" aims high. Author Ron Citlau tries to educate the same-sex attracted, the church member, the church leader, and the reader. In this succinct and to-the-point book, he attempts to bring hope first by explaining why three current ideas will not bring hope to the same-sex attracted, and then by explaining why some previous ideas will.

    When I first saw the title of this book, I assumed that the author would be proposing that committed, legal, same-sex marriage, understood and accepted by the church, would be the new hope for the same-sex attracted. To my surprise, Citlau says nothing of the kind. He states in the introduction to this book, "This book assumes that the Scriptures firmly and clearly state against same-sex activity and seeks to reveal the ways a same-sex struggler can find relational and sexual fulfillment as they live out a traditional view of Scripture even as they refuse to act on their same-sex feelings."

    In Part One of the book, he states that a gay Christian identity, gay marriage, and "spiritual friendship" are actually obstacles to a flourishing life for the same-sex attracted. Citlau uses the word "sin" in relation to living a committed gay lifestyle and means it. In Part Two of the book, Citlau describes what he says will give the same-sex attracted a chance to flourish, calling these "gifts": the church; healing communities and Christian therapy, where a better understanding of one's identity as a man or woman can be found; singleness; opposite-sex marriage; and prayerful lament, using the Psalms. Then, in Part Three, he addresses church leaders with thoughts on how they can help those in their congregations who are same-sex attracted.

    Citlau admits that he has struggled with same-sex attraction, even though he is happily married with children. He stresses, however, that the choice of opposite-sex marriage is not a cure for same-sex attraction and he does not advocate it as the only way to be accepted by church members. While written with sensitivity, this book does not really offer new ideas. Citlau still tells the same-sex attracted that their identity has been "broken" in some way, that to act on their feelings and desires is sinful, and that they must refrain from sexual behavior unless they feel called to enter an opposite-sex marriage. I imagine that for a same-sex struggler who reads this book, "prayerful lament" prayerful lament will indeed be the first reaction.
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