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Format: DRM Protected ePub
Vendor: WaterBrook
Publication Date: 2012
ISBN: 9780307730749
ISBN-13: 9780307730749

Publisher's Description

"Altared is a must-read for young Christians hungering for a realistic, biblically rich take on love and marriage in the twenty-first century."
—Katelyn Beaty, editor, Christianity Today magazine, Her.meneutics

Mar•riage-hap•py \mar´-ij-hap´e¯\ adj 1: Having an inordinate preoccupation with marital pursuits, sometimes at the cost of other Christian priorities, commonly seen in evangelicals. 2: A giddiness stemming from all things related to marriage.
In the frenzied pursuit of romance, Christians sometimes lose sight of the greatest commandments: to love God and to love others. Distracted by wedding bells and exuberant hopes for a happily-ever-after, Christians often forget the greater vision of Christ’s call to love.
What if God is less worked up about marriage than we are?
With honesty and insight, Claire and Eli ask us to shift our thinking away from marriage or singleness and toward love and discipleship.
Drawing from luminaries like Augustine, the Desert Fathers, and Bonhoeffer, they invite you to join their real-life exploration of love as they convincingly demonstrate why a love for God and for one’s neighbor are to be our top priorities, whether we are single or married.

Author Bio

Claire is a writer who originally hails from Cincinnati, Ohio. She graduated from Wheaton College with a bachelor’s degree in English with a concentration in writing. After Wheaton, she worked as an assistant editor for Christianity Today before moving to New York City to work in the Corporate Communications Headquarters for The New York Times. From there, she became an editorial assistant for Penguin Classics and Penguin Books. Claire’s writing has been published by Christianity Today, Books & Culture and First Things.
Eli is a lawyer and writer originally from Turlock, California, the home of Silva’s Taqueria. Eli received his law degree from The University of Chicago Law School and then went on to practice antitrust litigation as an associate at an international law firm in San Francisco. During school, Eli spent two summers as a clerk in the Homicide Bureau of the Brooklyn District Attorney's office. Before that, he worked in music as an A&R Manager at Tooth & Nail Records in Seattle. Eli's writing has been published by Books & Culture.

Editorial Reviews

Praise for Altared
"A beautifully written, searingly honest, and deeply thoughtful exploration of one of the most important topics there is."
     — Eric Metaxas, New York Times best-selling author of Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy and Amazing Grace: William Wilberforce and the Heroic Campaign to End Slavery

"Perceptive, personal, and poignantly true, Altared is a must-read for young Christians hungering for a realistic, biblically rich take on love and marriage in the twenty-first century."
     — Katelyn Beaty, editor, Christianity Today and Her.meneutics blog

"Altared tells us how certain unexamined notions about courtship and marriage (often framed as ’biblical’) play out among young American evangelicals today. Fresh, funny, perceptive, it is animated above all by wonder at the reality of God’s love."
     —John Wilson, editor, Books & Culture

"Altared is a wise, wry, questioning, affirmative, sober, and deeply encouraging story—and it does something nearly unique: It asks what our thinking about ’relationships’ and marriage might look like if it were governed by the biblical account of love. Not just the part about husband and wife, but love, in all its forms. This book is a sweet gift to the Church."
      — Dr. Alan Jacobs, Clyde S. Kilby professor of English at Wheaton College

"This is the relationship book for a new generation of Christians. Altared gently but forcefully reexamines our Christian love affair with marriage and has the audacity to suggest that real love has little to do with looking for Mr. or Ms. Right."
     — Dr. Christine Gardner, associate professor, Wheaton College, and author of Making Chastity Sexy: The Rhetoric of Evangelical Abstinence Campaigns

"A much needed wake-up call—a plea for a paradigm shift in the way that we think of love, marriage, and ourselves as followers of Jesus. Eli and Claire’s story needs to be shared."
      — Dr. Lucy Collins, professor of philosophy, ethics, and aesthetics

"A noble and necessary book, Altared does the hard work of mining the Bible and Christian luminaries like Augustine, Calvin, and Bonhoeffer for insights concerning dating, marriage and love, and then delivers that truth in hearty, yet practical ways. A great gift to the reader."
     — Vito Aiuto, Welcome Wagon, senior pastor of Resurrection Presbyterian Church

"I was challenged, entertained, taught, and inspired. The way the authors intermix biography and good, honest story telling with the more pedagogical sections is really fun and effective. Basically, it’s dang good."
      — Jamey Pappas, campus director, Campus Crusade, San Luis Obispo

"Now here’s a strange thing: a well written, immensely thoughtful exploration of the meaning of marriage that challenges our obsession with it without devaluing it. This is a lovely and needed book that I hope everyone reads."
     — Matthew Lee Anderson, author of Earthen Vessels

"Altared is a timely warning against making an idol out of marriage. In harmony (not eHarmony) with some of the best advice I ever received, this work tells readers how to pursue love, not marriage. Then see what happens. Highly recommended."
     — Dr. David Naugle, chair and professor of philosophy, Dallas Baptist University, author of Reordered Love, Reordered Lives

"A real winner here. Very well and creatively written!"
     — Dr. Joseph H. Hellerman, professor, Talbot School of Theology, author of When the Church Was a Family: Recapturing Jesus’ Vision for Authentic Christian Community

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  1. Alabama
    Age: 18-24
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    May 30, 2013
    Age: 18-24
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 3
    Meets Expectations: 5
    I almost didn't get Altared by Claire and Eli. I wasn't super into the idea of reading another book about marriage. Most of you that know me well enough to know my stance on singleness- it being a true gift and standing with what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7. That being said, I'm super glad I got this book!

    I really, really like books that are written by two authors. Part of the reason why I enjoyed books like Do Hard Things and Firsthand so much. I like getting two people's opinions and perspectives on a topic.

    Eli and Claire start off by telling you their love story and continuing it throughout the whole book. What I really liked about this book was how they didn't talk about marriage in the way most evangelical Christians would. They addressed that many people today expect marriage of everybody without even considering whether God wants them to marry or not. They both shared their struggles in this type of thinking and how that played out in their relationship (Fyi, the way the story plays out is not what you'd expect. I'll leave it at that. :) )

    I also enjoyed how they discussed 1 Corinthians 13 and loving God and loving our neighbors, even the ones we wouldn't choose to love, because as disciples of Jesus we don't get to choose who we love, we love everyone because Christ loves us.

    I would recommend this book to all of you guys and gals. As a young adult, I know how it can be once you turn 18. In the South it's especially prevalent that people expect you to get a boyfriend and get married pretty quick. Claire and Eli do a wonderful job of discussing why that may not be the best thing to rush into.

    This book is the best of both worlds, there's a story that is told and there are very well thought out discussions on what God says regarding love and how that works in every area of our lives.

    Thinking about marriage? Daydreaming of your future hub or wife? Go find this book and read it. It's well worth your time.
  2. Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Great Book
    January 5, 2013
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 4
    I thought this book was very well written and brought up some very good points. Its not an anti-marriage book or a pro-singleness book. Rather its a look at how we as Christians have sometimes (often) made marriage out to be the biggest requirement in Christianity. I thought it very thought provoking and a great discussion book even if you don't agree with everything it certainly makes some good points and is a worthy read.
  3. Indiana
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: female
    3 Stars Out Of 5
    Altared- my review
    October 16, 2012
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: female
    Quality: 3
    Value: 3
    Meets Expectations: 3
    This book contains his and her views separately and also as one voice on how they found each other, their initial thoughts and feelings about the courtship, their hopes and views on marriage and singleness, Christ's love for them and in truth where their importance lied and how their lives ended up evolving. Included are chapters entitled: Tips from Tolstoy, Love Thy Neighbor, Loneliness the Ache, Beach Balls and Sex Talks and many more. This volume also contains many bible passages and interpretations and quotes from familiar personalities.

    A truly different kind of singleness/marriage book than what I am used to reading and what started out as being so-so actually became quite good as their story moved along. I feel this book could be helpful for young new Christians or ones that have lost their way as it contains many life lessons learned by the authors. It could be enjoyed by male or female readers as both authors are contributing to the storyline. I did enjoy the bible references and passages but in all honesty even though I thought it progessed to be entertaining for the most part, and as an older married reader, I could not take a piece from this book and apply it to my own life. 3 stars
  4. Saint Joseph, MO
    Age: 25-34
    Gender: female
    2 Stars Out Of 5
    Unpolished & Non-Traditional Book on Marriage
    October 1, 2012
    Saint Joseph, MO
    Age: 25-34
    Gender: female
    Quality: 2
    Value: 3
    Meets Expectations: 2
    "ALTARED: The true story of a SHE, a HE, and how they both got too worked up on about the WE" is non-traditional look at marriage in the Christian culture. The authors, Claire and Eli, willingly admit to their audience that this book is "raw" and based heavily on their own personal experiences. It is their look into the Christian view of marriage from their own personal perspectives.

    If you were expecting this to be anything like a traditional Christian book on dating and marriage then I encourage you to never EVER read this book because it is in NO WAY a traditional view on marriage! In some ways the authors seem to look down upon and belittle the traditional standards of Christian dating and marriage. As you may have guessed from the title one of their major issues with the traditional viewpoint is the amount of emphasis that is placed on dating and marriage in the church. It goes to the point that it is almost past observation and into the realm of being blatantly offensive.

    This book does challenge you to look at things in a way most Christians aren't normally challenged to but I would never recommend this book to someone who already struggles with the ideas of dating and marriage. Make no mistake that I agree that too much emphasis is placed on the fact that many Christians and churches seem to believe that all Christians have to get married, but that doesn't belittle the importance of marriage. There are times that I felt it was marriage--rather than the over focusing on marriage--that was questioned, but that's just my opinion.

    However, Altared is a good reminder to churches and church staffs that you don't have to be married to be an effective Christian or an effective minister. I believe that was part of the original intent of this book and for that I applaud them. I simply ask that they present their case in a way that I feel more of an equal and less talked down to.

    This book was provided to me free of cost for review purposes by Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing.
  5. Saint Louis, MO
    Age: 25-34
    Gender: female
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    Perfect read for Christians everywhere!
    October 1, 2012
    Saint Louis, MO
    Age: 25-34
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    Claire & Eli have written a compelling, thought-provoking, must-read book exploring dating & marriage in Christian life. They artfully discuss the challenges facing young Christians who are taught to believe that marriage is the pinnacle of relationship success (mainly because it curbs lustful, sinful nature). They illustrate the difficulties of dating and remaining single into your 20's & 30's & how that seemingly conflicts with the lessons of the Church. The authors use their own dating story to draw you into a deep, intellectual and philosophical questioning of the real questions that face Christians in the dating world: What does the Bible say about singleness? Dating? Marriage? Am I disappointing God? Why hasn't God given me "The One?" Why am I still single?

    The book is beautifully written & will challenge you to revisit your thoughts on the role of marriage in Christian life. The authors provide you with a fresh perspective on this widely discussed topic: that perhaps marriage (and finding "The One") has become an idol within the Church and has replaced Jesus's higher calling to discipleship.

    Claire & Eli focus on Christ-centered love & Christ's calling to discipleship. They invite you to let go of relationship-anxiety to answer God's call to discipleship. Anyone who has ever felt lonely, unloved, marriage-obsessed, or relationship-induced anxiety should read this book! Parents should read this book! Christians should embrace this book because it is a fresh perspective on discipleship & how it relates to the most important issues of our hearts. Youth groups & young adult groups would benefit greatly from studying this book. I love this book & you will, too, even if it challenges your existing beliefs on Christian dating & marriage.
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