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|Title: Young and in Love: Challenging the Unnecessary Delay of Marriage|
By: Ted Cunningham
Number of Pages: 224
Vendor: David C Cook
|Publication Date: 2011|
Dimensions: 8.25 X 5.50 (inches)
Stock No: WW404472
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Cunningham believes that teaching people to delay marriage demeans the institution of marriage on several fronts. He believes that delaying marriage increases the frequency of cohabitation. Then, as cohabitation increases so does divorce. Young and in Love also argues that "delaying marriage delays adulthood" (p. 68). As long as people delay marriage, Cunningham argues, they have a license to be selfish and "self-centered" (p. 70).
To Cunningham's credit, he carefully acknowledges some of the ways that people rush into marriage, and some of the necessary delays for marriage. He is forthright about the truth that some people, especially young, chaste Christians, rush into marriage just because they do not want to wait to have sex any longer. He also wisely counsels against couples who marry young because it brings financial benefit (p. 85).
Young and in Love goes on, however, to argue against many of the prevailing arguments for delaying marriage. The arguments Cunningham disagrees with include increasing one's financial health (pp. 102-104), and waiting until one is through with college (pp. 105-106).
I have enjoyed reading Cunningham's arguments, although I think at times the book is overly repetitive. I agree with him on several points, and I disagree with him on others. You may agree or disagree with him, but I think if you read what he says you will agree with me that he has some intelligent arguments, and his point of view should be heard. Much of what we hear about delaying marriage is not value neutral, but driven by fears and agendas that may not be scriptural or godly. Personally, I got married rather late (age 34), but I certainly would not resent anyone or blame anyone for choosing to marry at a younger age if they were ready and had found the right partner. If nothing else, Young and in Love can challenge prevailing thought enough to rejoice with those who marry at a young age, and support them instead of gritting our teeth believing that their marriage has no chance because they are too young. Clint Walker, www.ChristianBookPreviews.com