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Number of Pages: 224
Vendor: David C. Cook
Publication Date: 2011
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Cunningham believes that teaching people to delay marriage demeans the institution of marriage on several fronts. He believes that delaying marriage increases the frequency of cohabitation. Then, as cohabitation increases so does divorce. Young and in Love also argues that "delaying marriage delays adulthood" (p. 68). As long as people delay marriage, Cunningham argues, they have a license to be selfish and "self-centered" (p. 70).
To Cunningham's credit, he carefully acknowledges some of the ways that people rush into marriage, and some of the necessary delays for marriage. He is forthright about the truth that some people, especially young, chaste Christians, rush into marriage just because they do not want to wait to have sex any longer. He also wisely counsels against couples who marry young because it brings financial benefit (p. 85).
Young and in Love goes on, however, to argue against many of the prevailing arguments for delaying marriage. The arguments Cunningham disagrees with include increasing one's financial health (pp. 102-104), and waiting until one is through with college (pp. 105-106).
I have enjoyed reading Cunningham's arguments, although I think at times the book is overly repetitive. I agree with him on several points, and I disagree with him on others. You may agree or disagree with him, but I think if you read what he says you will agree with me that he has some intelligent arguments, and his point of view should be heard. Much of what we hear about delaying marriage is not value neutral, but driven by fears and agendas that may not be scriptural or godly. Personally, I got married rather late (age 34), but I certainly would not resent anyone or blame anyone for choosing to marry at a younger age if they were ready and had found the right partner. If nothing else, Young and in Love can challenge prevailing thought enough to rejoice with those who marry at a young age, and support them instead of gritting our teeth believing that their marriage has no chance because they are too young. Clint Walker, www.ChristianBookPreviews.com
CuriousGeorge113Pittsburgh, PAAge: 25-34Gender: male5 Stars Out Of 5A great book - for the right personOctober 4, 2012CuriousGeorge113Pittsburgh, PAAge: 25-34Gender: maleQuality: 5Value: 4Meets Expectations: 5I absolutely love this book, but I am discerning about who I suggest to read it. I am a youth worker, and I definitely feel the frustration with the current generation of young people. Delayed adolescence is a very real problem in our society.
We also married young, while I was still in college & my wife had just graduated. Nearly 10 years later, our marriage is stronger than ever. The prevailing "wisdom" in our society, and our church, is that immediately following high school, you must go to college. Only after college can your real life begin. If a couple, who is strong in their faith & truly understands what love, commitment, and sacrifice are; then I see no reason why they should delay in marrying.
However, I do use this book with caution. Marriage REQUIRES responsibility & sacrifice. It's simply not an option to be selfish & immature within a marriage relationship. While I completely agree that marriage can push individuals to a place of self sacrifice & servant-hood, I also believe that there are some who are simply too immature to be married.
Before buying this book for yourself, you must consider your own maturity level. Same can be said in regards to buying this book as a gift. An immature, lazy person who gets married will most likely be an immature, lazy married person. And marriages where one or both spouses are immature and lazy tend not to end well.
mousey4Redmond, WashingtonAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Sons found information usefulJune 28, 2011mousey4Redmond, WashingtonAge: 45-54Gender: femaleI purchased this for my sons. They are 17 & 18 years old. They told me that it had useful information and completed it in two days! We will recommend this to our friends.