In "What He Must Be ...If He Wants to Marry My Daughter" Voddie Baucham Jr. does Christian dads a favor. He challenges them with a biblical vision of Christian courtship; and he cushions his challenge with a clear cut, easy to read, guide for how to think and plan about their daughter's future marriage.
Baucham realizes his message is as controversial as it is straightforward. Our culture prejudices us to an overly romantic idea regarding marriage. While parents feel freedom to guide and support their children in college and career choices, they are pressured to back off when it comes to their teenager's love life. Against this cultural backdrop, Baucham traces out a biblical vision of courtship, calling on dads and moms to think carefully about this aspect of their children's future.
Baucham considers "modern dating" to be "no more than glorified divorce practice." He counsels protecting a daughter's heart as much as her body. This entails thinking intentionally about the kind of man one would want for their daughter. Parents train their daughters to look for such a man, and are partners with her in the entire process.
The bulk of the book concerns the qualities of a suitable Christian man. And sadly such men, according to the author's frank admission, are in short supply. No worry, if you "can't find one... build one"! If you can't find a man who is a follower of Christ, prepared to lead like Christ, who is committed to a biblical view of children, and who can be your daughter's protector, provider, prophet and priest... then you must find a promising young man and disciple him (or build him) yourself.
Counter-cultural and radical? Yes. Unthinkable? No. Baucham carefully builds his vision of Christ-centered family life, making it increasingly clear as he progresses. The Bible is brought to bear on topics many Christians don't take time to consider well. And Baucham's warm, personable and very readable style aid him in transmitting his message effectively.
One may not be ready to follow all points of the author's plan, after reading the book through. But a careful reading of Baucham's message will certainly change anyone's perspective on the extremely high calling of parenthood. I urge everyone to consider picking up this book, and let Voddie Baucham Jr. walk you through a biblical view of courtship. And may God be pleased to provide our sons and daughters godly spouses for His glory and their joy.
Disclaimer: This book was provided by Crossway Books for review. I was under no obligation to offer a favorable review.
A must read for parents of teen girls and boys, as well as for the teens themselves! Read this BEFORE your youngsters enter the dating time of their lives. Practical, biblical advice for raising pure and godly young men and women.
I have come to trust Voddie in his theological soundness and this book is another fine example of how he reaches out to us laymen and explains what the bible has to say about courtship and marriage insted of tradition or past tried and failed paths. This is the third book of his that I have read and his style is personal and intimate while being very clear and concise on how biblical principals aply. He is faithful to point out falsities' of some translations and common mistakes of taking verses out of context. This book is a great addition to his books "Family Driven Faith" and "Ever Loving Truth" that stress the need for Christian families to get back into the drivers seat of discipling their children in order to instill the importance of multi-generational faithfulness.
The marriage of our daughters is a very important topic. It's worth our time to evaluate our expectations for a future son-in-law and be in prayer that God will send the right man at the right time.Voddie Baucham addresses how to do this in his book What He Must Be . . .if he wants to marry my daughter. His book will provide a list of qualities that will allow you to determine if a man if worthy and capable of leading and loving your daughter for the rest of her life.This is more than just a parenting book though. This is wisdom and instruction for men to step it up and be worthy of the wives they've pledged their love to. What He Must Be . . . if he wants to marry my daughter is manly guidance to Dads to set the example for what their daughters should look for in a man.Baucham holds to a biblical view, and not a cultural view. He even follows that biblical view to the point of challenging his own beliefs of what a husband looks like. His commitment to what the word says is unwavering and admirable.What He Must Be . . .if he wants to marry my daughter is encouragement and instruction for parents. It is a push toward a biblically-defined family. What He Must Be. . .if he wants to marry my daughter provides wisdom for finding your daughter a God-ordained husband, inspiration for fathers and a checklist for raising a godly son. I'll probably never get this book back from my husband. He has already read and claimed this book (and even made a spot for it on his book shelf).