From the first time I read the description about the book Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst, I wanted to read it. As a woman who has many "unglued" moments, I was interested to learn more about how I could avoid reacting to my feelings or when others got under my skin and learn more about how I could respond when my feelings started to rear their ugly head or when I felt like someone was walking on my feelings. I was not disappointed. I am so glad that I got the opportunity to read this book because it opened my eyes to areas where I need to improve, but more than that, it gave me practical ways I could actually make progress.
From the words I read in chapter 1, "Feeling unglued is really all I've ever known. And I'm starting to wonder if maybe it's all I ever be." (pg 14), I was hooked. I know that feeling. I could relate to that feeling. What followed was a call to "imperfect progress", to give myself hope that I could make progress, and that imperfect progress is still progress. Throughout the book, Lysa shares her own experiences and how the principles she gives in this book have helped her to make imperfect progress.
What I love about this book is how transparent Lysa is with us. She doesn't try to make herself seem like this perfect woman who has it all together. She's real and authentic, and she candidly writes about how badly she sometimes has responded when someone "bumped up against her happy." Because of this, I was more open to reading what principles she put in place to help her to respond better to those who got under her skin or in situations where her feelings were starting to control her actions. She reminds us that even though we cannot control everything that happens in our days, we can control how we think about them and how we act in response to them. This is so important.
She not only gives principles for how to more appropriately respond to those who get under our skin or when our emotions get in the way, but she warns against labeling ourselves. How often I have put a label on myself (or let others put a label on me), rather than choosing something different?
Overall, I highly recommend this book to any woman who feels like her emotions are in control of her actions. I feel like I walked away with sensible, practical ways that I could start to respond in a way that would help me to promote peace, while at the same time not invalidating my own thoughts and feelings. I found that her examples were easy to relate to and that they added validity to her premises. This is an excellent read and a good resource for learning to make "imperfect progress."
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Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst is a refreshingly honest read about the world of raw emotions. She describes 4 different reactions that women can have when we experience a flood of emotions that have the potential to rob us of the joyful life that God intends for us (two different kinds of exploders and two different kinds of stuffers). Her vulnerability and openness about the struggles and progress in her own life is an encouragement to women everywhere who want to change but don't know how. She continues to cover a variety of other related topics to raw emotions such as managing jealousy and negative inside chatter.
Lysa provides hope and encouragement and realistic steps towards forward progress throughout the book. The thing I appreciated the most about this book was the understanding that perfection isn't the goal, but progress in the right direction is. Her real life stories are incredibly relatable and make women feel like they are not alone in the struggle to control their emotions, and she brings this often hidden topic into the open and makes it something easy to talk about. A great book with lots of real life application.
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This book is such a great tool for anyone dealing with those moments where you come apart at the hinges: whether with your huband, children, family, friends, co-workers or the countless people you meet in your day. Lysa gives an honest glimpse into her own life which I'm sure anyone can relate to. She also gives practical advice to deal with those days whether your exploder or stuffer of a bit of them all. The dvd study that goes along with it is also a a gem!
As only Lysa can, she writes in a humorous, genuine style to show you her flaws and her triumphs at being all that God has planned for her to be. Her latest book, Unglued: Making Wise Choices In the Midst of Raw Emotions, provides a few real world anecdotes of times where she's lost it and how she's learned to find a more Godly response to those situations. Lysa talks about the four different kinds of unglued reactions:
1. The Exploder Who Shames Herself - These are times when you lose your cool and then feel horrible about your reaction
2. The Exploder Who Blames Others - These are the times when, somehow, it becomes everyone else's fault that you have reacted the way you did_.because they led you to that behavior.
3. The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers - These are times when someone has really hurt you but you keep silent about it and, in turn, react to them differently causing deeper damage to the relationship.
4. The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks - These are times when you keep silent when someone has hurt you and you keep stuffing it down_until it explodes into a whole litany of rational and irrational things against the other person(for everything they've done in the last 10 years).
By being open and honest about a variety of her own reactions, Lysa speaks to the reader as if she is a good friend confiding with you about the daily struggles of marriage, raising kids and working. But, Lysa gives us practical tips along the way on how she has learned to improve her behavior and "make wise choices in the midst of raw emotions". There are some great pearls of wisdom in this book that we can all use!