Most amazing way of walking someone through a nightmare. Helping me in the marriage to see God's place in our lives and questions to help me deal with it . Every chapter has a needed revelation to discover. Praying for my husband to read it and join me in this discovery of Hope and GRACE.
I absolutely recommend this book to anyone that has been or is going through infidelity in their marriage. My husband and I have been blessed by Gary and Mona's testimony. Their journey and their vulnerability to share it with other couples so that they know that God can and will save their marriage if you allow Him to.
My husband and I take turns reading a chapter a week, answer the questions at the end of each chapter and share with each other as well encourage one another. Amazing, amazing resource!!!
This book had a transforming effect on my husband and me. A major crisis hit us when years of infidelity was confessed...we didn't know where to turn. I (wife) began reading this book and it made me realize that I wasn't alone...and that I could and should be honest about what I needed to know. My husband began to read it, begrudgingly, and realized he needed to come completely clean. Gary and Mona Shriver shared their experience in such a way that it ministered to exactly the parts of each of us (my husband and me) that needed to be ministered to. God has an incredible of way of meeting us where we need to be met. And He did that for us through this book!
Along with Debra Laaser's book, Shattered Vows, this book gave my husband and me the perspective and hope we needed to realize that we could not only recover from adultery, but our marriage could be healed by the Almighty and made beautiful from the ashes. We were put on the right path, the right considerations planted in our hearts and minds, because Gary and Mona had the courage to write a book about the hope and healing God brings when we submit to Him and do things His way.
There is also a lot of practical information in this book, from the struggle itself to the boundaries that we need to think about when we finally make the commitment to see our marriages through as God would have us do. I would (and have) recommend(ed) this book to anyone who is going through adultery recovery--or even considering taking that difficult but rewarding route.
One note: Gary and Mona's story is about a "limited" amount of adultery (if there is such a thing). Debra Laaser's book is geared more for those who have been dealing with sexual addiction or adulterous behavior that is more than just a once or twice scenario, which is what my husband's and my experience was.
This book certainly helped me to understand the journey ahead of me. Mona & Gary do a great job of explaining the experience from their perspective. In many cases, me and Mona could be the same person. This also helped me to understan what my husband is feeling as the infidel. He is not great at expressing his own hurts and he tends to hold everything in and that could look like uncaring. I feel if my feelings are likened to that of Mona's, he must have some common feelings like Gary. I certainly am more willing to see from his perspective and looking forward to healing.