This book is well written and has lots of valuable information. However, it is written from the perspective of closed adoption, which creates many of the issues presented in the book. This book presents adoption, overwhelmingly, as an awful experience for children who have been adopted. No joy, no fun, no blessing...just hard. Many I have talked to have similar reactions to this book--too negative. However, I do believe adoptive parents should read this book to be aware of the possible issues that may come up along the way. However, do not put too much stock in this book. May I recommend reading it AFTER adopting?? If you read it prior, it may scare you off and cause you to miss out on 1 of God's greatest blessings!
I couldn't put this book down. I read it as we began the process of adopting an older child. Because of this book I was able to secure answers to some of the items the author explained as important for my now adopted daughter. I was also able to have a better understanding of what might be going through her mind now, and as she becomes a teen and beyond. I think it should be required reading!
I can not recommend this book highly enough! As both an adoptive mother and a trained Christian counselor, I found this book to be VERY easy to read, & VERY compassionate. It is honest without being scary and full of insight. My adoptive daughter, now 16, has also read the book repeatedly. It has provided us with many opportunities for deep discussions. Because of it, she has felt comfortable sharing some of her deepest, most guarded pain. This book should be required reading for all adoptive parents, & for all those considering adopting a child.