I'm not a pop-psychology kind of person, I don't believe that anyones problems can be solved by reading a single book, so I approched this book with extreme cautions. After reading the first 3 chapters I had to have a talk with my husband. Dr. Leman was right on with the way my husband is thinking.
After 20 years of marriage God has used this book, along with several others, to help me to understand who my husband really is, and in alot of cases, not to take things so personally with the things he says or does. And yes while there are some things that the author had written that as a woman I feel are inappropriate, some men do see things a certain way. I think that this is a book I will probably pull out once a year to re-read.
Even though I have been married for (collectively) 30 years, I still learned things that I didn't know from this book. I gave it to my 25-year-old daughter who is on the brink of getting married. This book is a great one to add to your collection!
The author of this book seems to have an unrefined attitude towards women. Based on his stories, he doesn't treat his wife with the respect she deserves. I would recommend a book such as "The 5 Love Needs" by Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg instead.
I wish I could get my money back for this book. While the author makes the legitimate point that a man needs respect and sexual fulfillment, I was turned away by his crass attitude. He teasingly told his friend after ogling a woman, "I just committed adultery." I was horrified when he said that if a husband is checking out a woman wearing a certain kind of sleazy outfit, his wife should race out to find that same kind of outfit. Wouldn't that encourage lust by training his brain to always be searching for indecently clad women? Those types of comments made this book a waste of my time and especially my money.