5 Stars Out Of 5
"The Marriage You've Always Wanted"
February 4, 2014
This book is easy to read and contains nine chapters. There are questions to go over at the end of each chapter to help bring about a better relationship. The goal of this book is to bring happiness, peace and harmony to marriages.
Dr. Chapman emphasizes that it would be ideal for both spouses to read this book, or at least be open to putting into practice the suggestions it contains. However, he believes that progress can be made even if only one of the spouses is willing to follow this book's recommendations.
The author brings up very good points that are common to many relationships. For instance, most couples don't talk about every day, ordinary job duties before marriage. Ideally, such a conversation should take place before a couple marries. But in reality, most couples don't. Then, after the honeymoon, jobs such as taking out the trash, cooking, cleanup, who takes care of the finances, etc., can become big points of contention if a discussion doesn't take place about who will do what. Dr. Chapman recommends such a discussion should take place sooner, rather than later, in a marriage. But it is never too late to have that conversation. He comments that we are long past certain jobs automatically being a woman's or a man's.
This book covers a broad range of topics from "why your spouse won't change" to sex in a marriage to dealing with in-law issues. The doctor offers good advice, and hope for a better relationship, even if only one spouse wants to work on the marriage. Most importantly, the book stresses that God needs to be at the center of a marriage for both people to enjoy their union to the fullest.
This would be a good book for recently married couples to read, but works for couples who have celebrated many anniversaries as well. As long as two people are building a life together, there is always room to learn something new, no matter how old the relationship. This book offers concrete steps to follow to make a change happen for a couple. I especially liked his recommendations that couples are forming a new family, so the husband and wife need to concentrate on each other. He explains that is what the Bible means when it states that the husband and wife leave their parents and "cleave" to each other. The short amount of time it would take to read this book is well worth the dividend of a better marriage. I recommend it and give it five stars. My prayer is that everyone would have a happy, God-centered marriage.
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