This is probably one of the soundest presentations of what marriage consists. It deals nicely with the reality of oneness at the three levels of our being (Spirit, soul and body). But Dr. Crabb does not try to give simplified answers nor standardized solutions to marital problems. He does seek to lead people into deeper relationship with Christ.I have recommended this book more than any other to couples who seek to build and strengthen their marriages.
There are many "marriage help" books but for my husband and I this might as well be the only one. The book does exactly what is says in the description. It makes you look to God to provide all your needs, except you spouse and renews your marriage relation.We found the questions extremely helpful in discoveing where we have gone of the right trail but they are a lot of work. We realize that without the hard work we can't undo what we've build up as habbits over all the years (even from before our marriage) and it takes hard work to learn to respond in a Godly way, today and in two months as well. With highest recommendation. Jantina Buter
The Marriage Builder highlights three relational areas: the couple's spiritual relationship to God, their social/soul relationship to one another, and their physical relationship to each other. When dealt with properly, and in priority order, Crabb asserts that relationships will be healthy (not necessarily happy, since that is not God's goal nor guarantee for life this side of heaven). Discussing the spiritual relationship, Crabb explains that when God cleanses sin through salvation, His grace simultaneous quenches the deepest thirsts in the human soul. Rather than beings some new-age mantra as some claim when they critique Crabb, the concept of longings, desires, thirsts, and hunger is both biblical and historical (church history). The Trinitarian God of the Bible created humanity in His relational image. Since human beings are finite, they will always long for the infinite--for God's infinite holy love. Once a husband and wife come to understand that all they need is God and what He chooses to provide, Crabb notes that then they can quit the old "tic on a dog" relationship of mutual manipulation. Instead, they can begin a relationship of mutual ministry. In this area, Crabb explores God's essential design for the masculine and feminine soul. He posits that males have a deep social longing for respect, which coincides with Paul's teaching in Ephesians 5. Crabb also explains that females have a deep social longing for intimacy, also correlating with Paul's teaching in Ephesians 5. As couples learn to drink fully from the God of the universe and to serve one another tastes of respect and intimacy, they are prepared to experience body oneness. One in their walk with God, one in their relationship with each other, now they move toward physical oneness. Reviewer: Bob Kellemen, Ph.D., is the author of "Soul Physicians," "Spiritual Friends," and the forthcoming, "Beyond the Suffering: The Story of African American Soul Care and Spiritual Direction."