WOW!!! and I really mean WOW!! This is no fairy tale little story that translates into a few mistakes from the man and a little fuss from the woman, some insistence from the same man, some magical kiss and BANG- happily ever after!!! This is a hard-core relationship explanation. I felt like I was told a true story of a friend that went above and beyond marriage counseling.
I love this book and plan not just to recommend it to my facebook and goodreads friends but to all couples that struggle in their marriage. Now, don't get me wrong, it is a lovely romance but in between, the advises given by Audrey and the personal transformation in Jim, the effect it had on his children, it was really deep. And the balance of the whole story line there aren't too many extremes, authors didn't go overboard with it- that made it very realistic. In fact I was so taken with it that I went online and researched the authors. So let me tell you, "listen" to all the details carefully because it is written by a pastor and a family counselor.
I loved the explanation of The Fear Dance. how many wrong "steps" are we making in the Dance of our marriage because of the fear?? And how does our partner respond to them?? It is true there is no losers. Marilyn did get rid of Jim by leaving him and yes she did make a loser of him in many people's eyes, but really was she a winner in it?? Absolutely not!!! she was free but not happy. Marriage is a dance for two and whether you lose and win you do it together...
One particular thing was a splash of cold water for me. And it is when Audrey tells him that we all believe in fairy tale -- that if we just meet that one special person all our problems will go away! What I have learned is that is not true; and when we realize it, we leave that person in search of another one to make it all better only to run the same circle again! So dear women, don't leave your men in search of another, do your best to dance happily with the one God already gave you. There is no one better.
I want to really thank both authors for making such a perfect mix between a romance novel and family counseling, I know it got me thinking and I am sure will touch others too.
Disclaimer: I got a free copy of this book from Baker Publishing through NetGalley, in exchange for my honest opinion!!
I disagree with another reviewer who said it was 'preachy'. For once a book marketed as a Christian piece; actually was. The emphasis on characters who are authentic followers of Jesus in genuinely devastating situations rises out of the muck and mire with their morals intact. What a refreshing change!
Jim Anderson is stunned when he arrives home from work after a busy day and discovers his wife is missing. His shirts aren't ironed. Dinner isn't on the stove. How could she do this to him?
After twenty-seven years of being Jim's version of a perfect wife, Marilyn has had enough. She leaves Jim a note telling him not to contact her, then settles into an apartment with a girlfriend. Finally free to do what she wants for a change, Marilyn finds a job and fulfills a lifetime dream by signing up for dance lessons.
As it turns out, Jim is the only one who's clueless about why she left. Their children are not surprised and tell him so. At this point in The Dance, I have to confess that Walsh did such a good job of portraying Jim as a jerk that I was hoping Marilyn would just run far away and leave him forever.
However, the focus of this story is restoration. As the days of Marilyn's absence mount up, Jim slowly recognizes that he's to blame for the crumbling of his marriage, but has no idea what to do to win her back. How will he change a lifetime of putting himself first? And how can he expect to heal his marriage when Marilyn won't even talk to him?
The Dance is the first in The Restoration series. Walsh and Smalley have written a remarkable novel that will impact readers as they take the journey of restoration along with the Andersons.
The Dance is a skillfully told story. I give it two hearty thumbs up!
My thanks to the author and Revell for providing me with a review copy.
I was so excited to read Dan Walsh and Gary Smalley's newest book and the 1st in their Restoration Series! With their name on the Front cover, you have high expectations, right!? right!
Jim and Marilyn are sadly, a very common example of many marriages today. Each is set in their "roles" and they have grown further apart as the years go by. For Marilyn, she had been crying out how unhappy she was and Jim just wasn't hearing exactly what she was saying or how serious she was.
The Dance is excellent and portrays a perfect look at what it takes to really work at putting your marriage back together, healing the wounds, and finding love all over again.
I really didn't think Jim was ever going to "get it." He frustrated me immensely! But I loved the journey Jim took and how he had his eyes opened! Marilyn's journey was totally different of course, but just as moving. I so appreciated how their children's thoughts and perspectives played a role, because no matter how old they are or even if they have moved out and lead a life on their own, they are still affected.
Overall, The Dance was excellent and I highly recommend it on so many levels! I CANNOT wait until book 2 is out!