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Number of Pages: 256
Vendor: Multnomah Books
Publication Date: 2013
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"Where does highly happy come fromand can we have some too?!"
Have you ever looked at a blissfully married couple and thought, I wish I could know their secret? Now you can. After years of investigative research, Shaunti reveals twelve powerful habits that the happiest marriages have in common.
Best news of all? Anyone can learn the secrets of a highly happy marriage!
In The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, Shaunti Feldhahn shares her findings about little, very unexpected, often overlooked actions that make a huge difference. Youre about to discover that highly happy couples:
• Go to bed mad
• Keep score (just not in the way you think)
• Boss their feelings around
• Have factual fantasies
• Get in over their heads
• Dont tell it like it is
• Dont look to marriage to make them happy…
Packed with eye-opening research and practical helps, this book delivers relationship insights that will take your marriage from "just fine" to "just the marriage weve always wanted."
Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of For Women Only and other books with sales of more than two million copies in 22 languages. With a masters degree from Harvard, Shaunti uses her analytical skills to uncover life-changing surprises about our most important relationships. Her research has been featured on The Today Show, Focus on the Family radio, in Cosmopolitan magazine, and in the New York Times. She and her husband, Jeff, have two children and live in Atlanta.
"I am thrilled with the findings, clear reporting, and explanations. Shaunti is tireless at tracking down the truths that matter to relationshipsand countless men and women have benefitted as a result. I have already started using some of this new data at my conferences!"
Emerson Eggerichs, best-selling author of Love and Respect
"What an important relationship book for such a time as this! A must for every couple."
Dr. Tim Clinton, president of the American Association of Christian Counselors
"In just the first few chapters of this amazing resource, I found Shauntis research and insights incredibly helpful. This is a book Ill be using personally and recommending to many friends."
Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times best-selling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries
"One of my favorite things about this book is how practical these secrets are. These are things anybody can do to make their marriage even more satisfying!"
"Regardless of the state of your marriage, Shaunti reveals how small changes in awareness and actions can truly change everything. She offers transferable actions that any couple can replicate to experience marital fulfillment."
Kerry Shook, founding pastor of Woodlands Church, Houston, Texas, and co-author of the bestseller One Month to Live
"Shaunti is one of those rare communicators who really gets marriage and all the give-and-take thats required. Youre holding months worth of marital counseling in your hands!"
Shannon Ethridge, best-selling author of the Every Womans Battle series
"The entire time I was reading this book I kept stopping and saying to my wife, Oh, wow! Listen to this! The great truth within these pages is that little things do indeed mean a lot."
Jeff and Gregg Foxworthy
"Shaunti is one of the best researchers in the field today, and Im always encouraged and surprised by her findings and how practical they are. I will be recommending this book to the women I minister to."
Jennifer Rothschild, author of Lessons I Learned in the Dark
"What an important and desperately needed book! Shaunti debunks so many of the marriage myths that we have taken as gospel and shares the real secrets to happily ever after."
Kathi Lipp, author of The Husband Project and Praying Gods Word for Your Husband
"Shaunti has done the research, dissected the results, and delivered to us the proven recipes for success. Even after thirty years of marriage, I learned so much! This is a book every married person should read!"
Jill Savage, CEO of Hearts at Home and author of No More Perfect Moms
"Every married person and every person who wants to be married needs to read this book. Its a fun and surprising journey that can totally transform your marriageI promise."
Valorie Burton, author of Happy Women Live Better
"This book takes the mystery out of happy marriages by boiling it down to some key attitudes and actions that can make all the difference between a mediocre marriage and a magnificent one."
Leslie Vernick, licensed counselor, relationship coach, speaker, and best-selling author of The Emotionally Destructive Marriage
"The message is timely, the research is fascinating, and the takeaways are life-impacting. Do your marriage a favor and read this book!"
Crystal Paine, founder of MoneySavingMom.com and author of Say Goodbye to Survival Mode
"This is one of the most encouraging and motivating marriage books I have ever read."
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"After working my way through these pages and pondering these gems of wisdom, I couldnt help but wonder how many marriages might have been saved had they understood these simple, attainable truths."
Susie Larson, national radio host, speaker, and author of Your Beautiful Purpose
"When you take the time to tune into the little things in each other, then together youll succeed at a great marriage!"
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"Shaunti wields the researchers clipboard, the analysts data, and the counselors insight to bring the excellent newsflash that great marriages are the culmination of definable, repetitive micromovements that add up to deep relationship satisfaction."
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"Shaunti knows how to mine scientific research and data for the relationship gold that can change marriages and change lives."
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CallieAge: 18-24Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Great Marriage Book!June 24, 2014CallieAge: 18-24Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5If you have ever read any of Shaunti Feldhahn's books, you know they are based on surveys she conducts, and then she tells us the results in a book. That is the same way she wrote this book - she interviewed 1000 of the happiest married couples she found, and she shares their "secrets" in The Surprising Secrets Of Highly Happy Marriages.
As I was reading each chapter, it felt like I was having epiphany after epiphany. The book shares twelve of the "secrets" of the happiest couples, and I felt like each one was such good, commonsense advice. At the same time, a lot of the secrets weren't things that I had even thought about before.
I kept thinking of things that I could do better through each chapter, but what I liked best was that each of these tips is so doable. These aren't vague ideas, they are solid tips that are spelled out very clearly, and there are clear ways to apply them either in action or attitude. They are all relatively easy to apply as well - I like that! As the subtitle says, these are little things that I can already see would make a big difference in the level of happiness in marriage.
Shaunti recommends picking one or two secrets to work on at one time, instead of trying to do all of them at once, and I think that is good advice - I was trying to remember all of them through the first half of the book and quickly realized that I wouldn't be able to change everything all at once. So I picked two of the secrets - "Happy Couple Keep Score" and "Happy Couples Think They Hit The Jackpot". Those are the two I'm going to focus on for the first few weeks of trying to apply what I learned here. I think I'll probably have to write more posts about this - I'm definitely feeling inspired after reading this book. Who doesn't want to be as happy as possible in their marriage?
I also really appreciated how positive this book is about marriage - happy marriages aren't something you just have if you are lucky, in most cases it is something you can achieve with a little effort. I think this would be inspiring to couples who may be currently struggling, and encouraging and helpful to couples who want to make their marriages as good as they can be.
This is probably one of the best marriage books I have ever read. If you are married, or hope to be married someday, you should definitely check it out!
Read the first chapter here.
Note: I received this book in ebook and print format for free from Blogging For Books in exchange for this review. This is my honest opinion.
KaylaAge: 18-24Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Worthwhile read!May 12, 2014KaylaAge: 18-24Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 4Meets Expectations: 5When Shaunti Feldhahn's new book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages came up for review, I eagerly selected it. Her books are small in size, so while 237 pages may sound ominous, it's quite readable.
Feldhahn offers poll results and analyses from 3 main groups - Highly Happy Married Couples, Mostly Happy Married Couples, and Struggling Couples. The book covers 12 "surprising secrets." Here are two that my husband and I already do (we do some of the others as well). It didn't surprise me that we fit in the "Highly Happy" category:
Highly Happy Couples Keep Score - not of wrongs committed against him/her by the other spouse, but of gifts and kind gestures shown. The receiving spouse "keeps score" of these and always looks for ways to give back.
Highly Happy Couples Boss Their Feelings Around - "Highly happy couples quickly stop a negative train of thought or action, replacing unhappy or angry thoughts or actions with positive ones, in order to change their feelings." (p. 64)
As an older friend advised me before marriage, our emotions must submit to our will_not the other way around. We needn't be led by our emotions (nor should we "follow our heart" - thankyouverymuch, Disney). I loved seeing this advice written by an author who sees it as a common thread among many Highly Happy Couples.
A lot of the contents felt like no-brainer info to me, but I suppose we aren't exactly normal. If you'd like some small changes you could implement personally - with or without the aid of your spouse - this is an excellent springboard resource. I give it 5 stars.
I received this book for free via WaterBrook Multnomah for this review. The perspectives (with the exception of direct quotes) above are entirely mine.
AnonymousSouth AfricaAge: 35-44Gender: male5 Stars Out Of 5Exceeds expectationsApril 12, 2014AnonymousSouth AfricaAge: 35-44Gender: maleQuality: 4Value: 4Meets Expectations: 5What I liked about the book was that it was incredibly practical and down to earth. It does not make vague suggestions about changing attitudes, it literally tells you what to think and what to say to start making these changes. It also has a lot of advice that goes against what we are usually told. I was particularly interested in the chapter in why it is sometimes more important to go to bed mad than to try and resolve your problems at night. And many of the chapters I was able to point at small things and say "That is true, I like it when she does that," or ask my wife "Do you like it when I do _xyz? And do I do it enough?"
The chapters are short enough not to bog you down, and included interesting graphs at the end, where you can study them if you are like me, or ignore the if you are like most people. These graphs show that often successful marriages are based on people doing the right things, even though they sometimes think it is the wrong thing.
"We know we are not supposed to <Go to bed mad etc.> but we do, and we are happy."
I would highly recommend the book.
Scotty5 Stars Out Of 5A great book on how to build a happy marriage ...March 1, 2014ScottyQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5It's been a while since I've been downright enthusiastic about recommending a book on the topic of marriage, but I am ready to do so!
"The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages," written by Shaunti Feldhahn (published by Multnomah Books) is worth buying and reading today, and both husbands and wives will enjoy and get real benefit from this book.
Being both a minister and a clinical counselor, I have read scores of books on the subject of marriage. This one is different! Instead of being a theoretical book that teaches ideas, concepts, etc., this book is an easy and fast read walking you through the results of some research into what makes a highly happy marriage.
At first blush, I wasn't impressed with the idea of these "secrets" coming just from data. After all, what one couple says is a good idea for a happy marriage may or may not be true in general. But I was thoroughly impressed by the quality of research and the outcomes compiled by Feldhahn.
The "secrets" Feldhahn shares comes from the compilation of three years of significant research with a mix of couples on the topic of how to have a happy marriage. Feldhahn then shares this data as simply drawn, easy-to-understand (and replicate) conclusions. As someone who has counseled thousands of people about marriage, I was expecting a more lengthy teaching approach. Instead, Feldhahn goes right to the point, "Here's secret number 1 ..." and gives you the conclusion. She spends a little time explaining why that particular conclusion works, and shows just enough of how it can be applied.
As Feldhahn unveils her data, I continued to identify as a counselor with the "why" that works, and knew the point she was making was solid. "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" is a direct delivery of the steps to take, and is less about the "why" of it, whereas so many other books about marriage spend most of their pages on the "why" and little about what to get busy doing.
I'm convinced if couples read and really put to use the information supplied in this book, they will have a reliable blueprint for making their marriage into a highly happy marriage.
Women quite often get more enjoyment out of books on marriage, but men can easily enjoy this book just as much. The chapters are short, the author gets right to the point, writes clearly, and lays out the steps in a way any reader can understand.
This would also be a great book for a couple to work through together. I can see a couple sitting down with cups of coffee and reading a chapter together, then talking about the "secret" in that chapter and discussing how they can incorporate it into their marriage.
To me, what makes this information work is that these "secrets" are already taught in the Bible. This book is a fresh demonstration of how couples today have applied truths long taught to make for a very happy marriage in our time.
Go get this book and improve your marriage!
I received this book free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group as part of their book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
AlandWyndaMinot, NDAge: Under 18Gender: female4 Stars Out Of 5If Jim Collins did research on marriages . . .February 23, 2014AlandWyndaMinot, NDAge: Under 18Gender: femaleQuality: 4Value: 4Meets Expectations: 4The writing style of the author reminds me of author Jim Collins whose notoriety comes from the books he has written after researching what makes some companies succeed and other fail over the long-term. I enjoyed this work as the author surveyed married couples to see whether their marriages were happy. She then combed through the data to look for trends. Like most things in life, it was the little things, rather than some significant 'WOW' experience or 'A HA' moments that made the difference for the couples with the happiest marriages. The author also compared her results to the findings of other studies to both confirm and add more depth to her own work.
The book is easy to read and offers practical insights that anyone can apply to their own situation, if they are willing to do so. I can see this book being used by current folks who want to improve their marriages and relationship, those who are preparing to be married (to help establish a good foundation and start off on the right foot), and by singles who want to know what a happy marriage is truly like.
This boos is a worthwhile resource that I would recommend.