5 Stars Out Of 5
God is a Miracle working God!
March 4, 2014
STOLEN BUT NOT LOST
by Janet Tombow
This is the true, but hard to fathom, story of a little girl whom was daily abused by her step-mom. We know it exists, but it still amazes me that anyone, but especially a parent/step-parent could treat their little one so. But it is more than this, it is a story of God's miraculous handiwork, and it all starts with an accident on a plane.
Being hit on the head while on a plane, is really a HIT IN THE HEAD and the beginning of a journey that only God could have planned, and seen carried out. When pain meds were not touching the headahes which were getting worse, Janet is sent to "a Christian Family Counselor who had 'experience with techniques to control or minimize severe headache pain.'" pg. 8
Even though she goes, with a tightly closed mind, God is at work from the very first session and Janet will face many issues as she comes to terms with having been an abused child. At just 5 she moves from living with her maternal grandparents and dad in Ohio, to California with her dad and his grandparents. She never sees her maternal grandparents again. Sadly she has no memories of this young part of her life.
At 6, her dad remarries and her stepmom shares with this young child the two conditions that had to be met for her to marry:
"First, she required father to move my great-grandparents out of the house before the marriage.
Second, she immediately became the family disciplinarian. This is a mild label for a terrible time in my life." pg. 10
This little one faced physical, and verbal abuse, daily. When she threatened to tell dad the punishment became more violent and when she said, "I'm going to tell my Mommy on you!" She would counter with, "Your mother didn't want you or love you, so don't think she will be able to help you!" pg. 11
There were other lies such as her mom trying to kill her, or running off with another man. All this by an adult, entrusted with the care of this little one by her father, whom she used and abused daily. It turns my stomach and was hard to read, hard to believe that anyone could be this outright cruel to a living being, and one so small, and yet we read and hear of stories almost daily.
Long after the physical abuse stops the verbal abuse, continues, and can be just as detrimental as physical, if not more so. You know the boundaries, or are guilted into remembering them, and therefore unable to move forward.
There were conflicting messages, including lying to her father, but then being punished on other ocassions. for this very thing. Perhaps her dad didn't know she was being abused, but then he would drive the car to "City of Hope" with Janet and her packed bag as she 'was a bad girl'. How awful for this little one, first mom apparently didn't want her, obviously the step-mom didn't, and now even her father.
And then her dad leaves not only the step-mom, but Janet as well, for another woman. So now both parents have left her, and she is left facing the daily abuse.
Finally, one day when her step mom goes to hit her, "I grabbed her wrist and in a very firm voice said, "Don't you EVER hit me again!...I was 47 years old.' pg.24
Each chapter starts with a Bible verse, setting the tone of the chapter, preparing you for what is to come, and what God is doing and chapter 3 is full of verses as she faces being reunited with her mom, and her reactions, emotions and lessons learned.
"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."
2 Timothy 1:7
Being so affectionately welcomed by her mom, Janet recalls "The Bible verse in 1 Peter 1:8 talks about 'rejoicing with joy unspeakable,' but I never understood that phrase until that moment." pg 53
"However, it is such an overwhelming feeling to be loved with a mother's unconditional love! A mother's love seemsto parallel how God loves us-no matter what has happened, for whatever reasons, God's love never ends. It appears this is a lesson I will keep learning about my mother's love too." pg. 59
There are many lessons learned that she shares with us the reader, that can be lessons for us as well in whatever we are facing and where we are today. Three of these are as follows:
1. " I needed to remember that the good things are dependent on obedience to God and make sure I keep Him in the right priority! " pg. 116
2. "The lesson I learned from this accident is that all we have is today. There's no guarantee of tomorrow." pg. 130
3. "Another good lesson in life: do your best every chance you get; someone might be watching who could be in a position later to bless you in return!" pg. 168
The last chapter in this story, opens with
Romans 8:28 "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."
What an assurance! And what has Janet learned that she shares with us the reader:
F-Find the truth
O-Open up to counseling
U-Uncover miracles available to you
N-Nver think it's too late for dreams to come true
D-Don't delay to obey
At times this was a very hard read, and at others totally delightful, and best of all it's a true miracle of God. Pick up this book today, and be prepared for the tears, the smiles, and many emotions on Janet's roller coaster called life.
Thank you to Janet Tombow and Fred St. Laurent at bookfun.org for this wonderful e-book, given in exchange for an honest review. Blessings!