I wasn't sure I would like this book when I began. After all, I'm not married (but I hope to be within a few years!). Right away, I realized that the authors had done a fantastic job of including more than the marriage relationship. What they teach you applies to all relationships. They base all their advice on sound Biblical and relational principles.
I will tell you that I did not actually do their suggested daily assignments in the book. I think that this book would be great for a small group Bible study where you could share those things in a journal form and weekly with the others in the group.
The things that really stood out to me in this book were being yourself with the special people in your life and not leaving when things don't go right. This is about love at last sight, not first sight. Hollywood has inundated out culture with romantic ideas that are absolutely unrealistic, and they are basically self-centered. When we realize that true love is action and not a feeling, it will definitely make a difference in our relationships.
We are reading it (wife and I) together & this book is good, as the LORD is showing us that life is good and helping us to grow. We will do our best to share these ideas with our eight children and the 19 grand children. Thanks.
"Everything you've been taught about relationships is wrong."
This tagline grabs your attention when you read the writeup on the back cover of "Love At Last Sight: 30 Days To Deepen Your Closest Relationships" by Kerry & Chris Shook.
I thought this book has some really good things to say. It makes no excuses for the fact that relationships really do take commitment and hard work to maintain, just like anything else worthwhile in this world.
The content of this entire book could have been clearly and effectively edited into a few chapters. The whole dragging it out into a 30-day study thing really sucked the momentum out of my reading.
The Biblical connections could have been stronger- I felt that the connection between God/the Bible and successful relationships sometimes felt forced, and in places where I could and would have been able to smoothly show a clear link if I had been the writer, there was none mentioned in the book. This made the book feel very "baby Christian-ish" to me. I wanted to see some spiritual tools, some real meat; I didn't want to have to slog through milk for a month to get to it.
The Bottom Line:
For me, the bottom line is that this could have been a great book for those who are young in body or young in Christ but I think that the long drawn out nature of the book would be a real turn-off to anyone. I'm blessed to be able to say that much of what my parents taught me about love and relationships was in fact, NOT wrong.
**I have received a free copy of this book from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for review purposes. The opinions expressed herein are my own and have not been influenced by the publisher.
I tried to read it; I tried to like it; I tried to get into it; I tried to "feel" the passion for marriage that the authors have ... but I stalled out at page 118 many months ago ... and the book sat - and honestly, I "forgot" about it. I want to move on with Blogging for Books, so I knew I had to post a review to get my next book AND SO I made it to page 133 ... and I'm just done with this book. Sorry :(
It may just be ME. I was excited at first when I requested this book. I'm always up for learning more about marriage relationships in a godly light - or being encouraged in my marriage - or being challenged to do something new for my marriage ... but this book fell flat for me. Maybe it is because I am not really familiar with Kerry & Chris Shook and their ministry ... or maybe (and probably more honestly so) it is because I am inundated by books that challenge us methodically to follow a certain pattern to work on a marriage (a'la "The Love Dare" associated with the movie Fireproof). I don't do well with things like that - I start out doing what I'm ask - but if there isn't any REAL meaning TO ME behind what I am doing, it fizzles. Fast. That's what Love at Last Sight did for me too.
IF you like organized, routinely planned things on your calendar, then YOU might love Love at Last Sight. It contains a one month relationship plan to help your most cherished relationship. And there are plenty of Bible principles to think about in the book. And by the way, the book is not just for marriages but applicable supposedly for ALL your closest relationships.
For me though, I'm going to gift my copy to someone who will appreciate it more than I have.