Some scary directives hidden behind good intention
January 31, 2013
The man thinks it is suitable to use corporal punishment (spanking, hand slapping, etc) against 8 month old babies. I understand the desire to train children to obey and to discipline them based on their heart issues. Tripp makes that clear at the beginning, and I appreciate that. However, could you imagine Jesus using corporal punishment against a child? Ever?
As parents we are to model to our children God's desire to be in relationship with us. This relationship is based on love and respect, not fear of punishment, but trust in his love because he first loved us and PUNISHED himself for our sake.
Discipline means teaching, guiding, leading. The verses in proverbs that are so often used to show that we ought to hit our children could be better translated. Please take time to research meanings for the Hebrew words translated "rod" (staff used to protect the sheep from wolves) and "child" (actually the word used probably means young man).
Don't just take Tripp's word for it.
While Tripp does a great job of laying out his intentions of training up children to love the Lord, and to discipline them by getting to the heart of the issues at hand in the child's life.... I encourage you to research the validity of HOW Tripp says we MUST discipline, as if he speaks for God himself that spanking and insisting on immediate obedience is the only way. God does not deal with us how Tripp says we must deal with our small children (and BABIES).
Still can't get over his description of how to discipline (hit) a disobedient 8 month old (in the first edition of this book). I don't think an 8 month old is able to disobey!
Put simply, this book had affected my approach to child training and Biblical discipline more than any other book I've ever read on the subject. The Biblical truths and approaches are timeless and foundational to any family at any point of the growth process.
The surprise is that I learned more about pastoring a church from these pages as well. You can take the same approach of dealing with the heart concerning shepherding a congregation.
I have purchased a dozen of these books and have made them available through the church library. If we had the resources we would have purchased a copy for every family.
I wish I had read this book when it came out and my children were babies ïŒ