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Number of Pages: 224
Vendor: Harvest House Publishers
Publication Date: 2011
|Dimensions: 8.50 X 5.50 (inches)|
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Continuing her popular Setting Boundaries® series, Allison Bottke offer her distinctive "Six Steps to SANITY" to readers who must deal with difficult people.
Stop your own negative behavior
A Assemble a support group
N Nip excuses in the bud
I Implement rules and boundaries
T .Trust your instincts
Y Yield everything to God
Whether it's a spouse, in-law, boss, coworker, family member, neighbor, or friend, readers who have allowed others to overstep their boundaries will learn how these six steps can help them reset those boundaries and take back their life for good.
Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People is designed to inspire, empower, and equip readers with the tools to transform lives.
Terry Whalin, publisher, editor, and writer
Karen O'Connor, author of Gettin' Old Ain't for Wimps and The Upside of Downsizing
Peggie Bohanon, Founder, Peggie's Place Ministry, PeggiesPlace.com
peggieSpringfield, MOAge: Over 65Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Bring "S-A-N-I-T-Y" Back to Your Life!November 30, 2011peggieSpringfield, MOAge: Over 65Gender: femaleI highly recommend this book for anyone dealing with difficult relationships in life. The Christian author, in easy-to-read language, presents spiritual insight and practical tips from a personal, well-researched and well-written perspective. Thanks, Allison, for a wonderful book!
bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: 55-65Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5great resource for dealing with difficult peopleNovember 8, 2011bookwomanjoanOak Harbor, WAAge: 55-65Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5People probably don't set out to make us life virtually unbearable, but they do. "For that reason, we can and should set healthy boundaries with the difficult people in our lives." Our focus cannot be on changing them but on changing the way we respond to them. Could God be using difficult people to help us be the people He wants us to be?
Bottke's goal in this book is to identify the role we play in the relationship with the difficult person and then empower us to make new choices.
We need to have a goal: to achieve freedom from the bondage that often accompanies challenging relationships. Dealing with her own boundary issues, she came up with her "Six Steps to SANITY":
S - stop your own negative behavior
A - assemble a support group
N - nip excuses in the bud
I - implement rules and boundaries
T - trust your instincts
Y - yield everything to God
"Without necessary boundaries, our lives become unmanageable." (29) She defines "boundaries" and explains why we need them. She addresses the impact of emotions. "Personal boundaries are limits or borders that define where you end and others begin." (34)
There are physical and psychological boundaries.
She helps us know whether our boundaries are healthy or not. Setting healthy boundaries requires a foundation of faith. We must love our neighbors as ourselves (this does not mean we let them abuse). She reminds us that this is going to be a process. One doesn't set healthy boundaries over night.
We are helped to identify difficult people. We are also helped to identify our own issues such as, where we enable (as opposed to help), are codependent, or have a history of abuse.
Bottke has us identify our difficult people and rate their severity. We explore emotional triggers and are helped to understand emotions. We are taught about the four temperaments. She reports on the necessity of change and that we always have a choice. She advises prayer and journaling.
In Part Two we move forward, using the SANITY technique. We focus on changing our own attitudes and behaviors, starting with the heart. "Our ultimate goal in achieving SANITY is to guard our hearts and to enjoy right relationships with God and with others in our lives." (113)
The first step, stop your own negative behavior, may be the hardest but is essential. Bottke encourages getting support around us (assemble a support group), giving several suggestions.
In Part Three, Bottke helps us with great practical suggestions on confrontations and dealing with consequences. She includes some sample letters of confrontation.
Those who are very familiar with the concept of boundaries or have read much of Cloud and Townsend may find the first part of the book a review of their material with Bottke's twist. The second half of the book, however, is packed full of practical ideas. If you feel you need to, skim the first half, but glean the great ideas in the second half.
Bottke is well read and quotes from many sources. Reading this book is like reading a small library and getting the best points out of each book.
We all have difficult people in our lives. Some may be in a close circle, such as a spouse or relative. Others may be more distant, such as a store clerk. We've all got them so we can all benefit from this book.
I received an egalley of this book from the publisher for the purpose of this review.
Rhonda Rhea5 Stars Out Of 5Great insights everyone can useNovember 7, 2011Rhonda RheaQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5Wouldn't it be great if we never encountered difficult people? But, boy oh boy, do we! Allison Bottke's insights into dealing with people in those challenging situations in Setting Boundaries with Difficult People are invaluable. Just what we all need!
kattroxIndianaAge: 45-54Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5Very Informative!November 7, 2011kattroxIndianaAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 5Meets Expectations: 5A few excellent key points in this informative and well written and researched book include: What is a boundary?, learn how to effectively set and implement realistic boundaries while finding sanity in your life, this book gives sensible guidelines to follow and utilize in learning how to effectively and lovingly deal with difficult people, how to identify difficult people and situations that drag you down, learning what sanity is and how to achieve it, locating support groups, deepening our relationship with God and so many more relevant topics. Along with bible passages and highlights from other books(authors) included corresponds to the material being presented along with personal journal questions to address ties together and compliments the chapter or point being addressed.
I have thorougly enjoyed reading (and thinking) as I dove into this book! It has helped me relate to my life and learn how to set boundaries in which I have struggled with. The author touches on so many topics I had not thought about but are so very important in setting and implementing boundaries. This book, I feel, will help all who struggle with these issues. I would highly recommend this book to others! Thank you to Harvest House Publishers and Netgalley for this ARC for my review.