Excellent resource for those of us who have been "helping" our children only to discover the hard truth of our negative enabling behavior. This book gives many real anecdotes of parents who have been down this road, and practical examples and steps of what to do and not to do. Although very painful for me to read, I highly recommend this book to anyone who is tired of the continuous drama in their adult child's life.
Excellent and informative book. Helped me with the issues I am having with my adult children. Highly recommend this book to any parent seeking answers on how to detach with love and start setting boundaries.
Allison Bottke's book was extremely helpful to my husband and me in writing out a plan of action to present to our grown son. Everything Allison presents is biblically based. She includes in her writings applicable and helpful quotes from books on boundaries written by other highly regarded authors, most if not all, being Chrisitans themselves. Allison also includes frequent quotes from Christian counselors who have extensive experience assisting parents with establishing boundaries. I purchased an additional copy of Allison's book for a friend of mine who is in a similar situation with her grown son.
If you find yourself coming to the rescue of your adult child over and over again, and if your adult child feels he is "entitled" to being taken care of by you even though he is now an adult, then YOU are an enabling parent! If you truly desire to change this pattern of parenting, and find freedom from all of the insanity in your life, then I would highly recommend this book to you. It will change your life and by the grace of God, it will change the life of your adult child too!