She's Got Issues by Nicole Unice is the latest book I've received from Tyndale for reviewing.
And let me start by saying I don't like the title.
To me, the phrase brings to mind people who struggle with particular, non-universal problems. And that isn't who this book is really about.
It's about the areas of struggle that are common to almost all of us in one way or another. All of the little things of our daily lives that we battle with that seem small on their own, but add together to keep us from really being changed by being a Christian.
It goes through different areas, and includes different quizzes to evaluate where you might need to consider things in your life.
But not all of these are going to be obvious. Quite a few may have different ways that they would show themselves that you wouldn't really think would apply to you at first glance.
For example, you may not have issues with control as in trying to control other people, or being obsessive about trying to control things in life... but there's also another side of the coin, in being overly avoiding of control and feeling like you don't have control over life, that things are mostly up to chance.
I was sort of surprised on how many chapters I figured wouldn't relate, only to read through and find that they really did in ways I wouldn't have expected.
But really... not a fan of the title. It doesn't really go where the book goes, but it also makes it a book that's a lot less likely to be picked up or purchased (or even read in a place where other people can see the title) by the people that the book really aims for, bogged down by the accumulation of the smaller struggles in everyday life rather than battling a particular "large" issue.
"Seriously good news for stressed-out, secretly scared control freaks like us"
"Standing on my porch with a dish towel on one shoulder and a burp cloth on the other, I knew in the deepest part of my soul that this could not be the 'life to the full' that Jesus promised".
Nicole Unice is a Christian counselor, ministry leader, and mom. She lets us know plenty about where she's been and how she came to bring this book to life. She helps us understand where she's coming from, which in turn lets you feel more comfortable when reading the book, almost like she right there talking with you one-on-one.
She explains about who you are, a King or a Pawn; groups in which control, or lack of, places us. Surprisingly, I wasn't the one I thought I was! There are different, dare I say, fractures, layers, to what makes one a King or Pawn.
She helps us figure out why we are the way we are, what got us there, what happens while we are there, and how to deal with it. Not necessarily how to stop or 'fix' it, but how to control it to better suit our needs. And we have the access to the power of Jesus Christ to help us through it!
This 14 chapter (great for study groups) book will walk you through a part of your life that you had no idea needed tweaking.
Christian Life/Women/Spiritual Growth
Includes Quizzes and other personal assessment tools
She's Got Issues by Nicole Unice is a good Bible Study for individuals or groups. It helps women understand if they do have issues and what they are. We all have them at one time or another and the author helps the reader understand how to deal with them. She addresses control, insecurity, comparisons, fear, and anger. Mrs. Unice gives students a prayer, a journaling exercise, and topics for group discussion with each chapter. There are also QR codes to snap with your smart phone for more.
I'm the women's ministries director and pastor's wife at our church. I'm sincerely looking forward to doing this study with my ladies. We DO all have issues in these areas at some time or another. The devil really likes to hit women there. I wanted to get moved to our new church before I had to review this study so I could let my readers know how it is as a group study. Unfortunately, that just didn't happen. I will be reviewing this again after my ladies and I go through it together.
Secure women are beautiful, powerful women because of their deep ability to loveâ€”not because they do it perfectly, but because they are loved by a perfect God. In her book, Nicole Unice writes how Jesus wants us to demonstrate what "life to the full" means, yet our own story is deeply affected by issues as ultimately life happens and pain does not discriminate. We hope the promise of abundant life is attainable, but we keep stubbing our toes on obstacles and issues that we don't know how to change; issues that kill our ability to love powerfully and unconditionally. Yet, healing is closer at hand once you recognize your need for it.
If you have ever wondered whether life lived with God can really change you, then Nicole welcomes you to journey through the pages of this book. She writes, as you accept your status as His beloved even in your mess, you can live His love with issues. Realizing you can't fix yourself comes with a posturing of your heart toward God through the practice of surrender and true humility that in every circumstance says, God, I need help. It's about trusting Him to shape your life and fashion you into exactly the woman He intends. To follow Jesus is to agree to change. In those private moments of surrender, we become strengthened for the public arena of our influence, and the result is a sweet freedom.
But God won't force His way in. He won't make you choose Him. He leaves this, the most important aspect of your life, up to you. Change is real and God is ready. Are you?
After reading Nicole's book and gleaning from the pages of her heart, I have been able to deal with issues in my own life and bring them to the surface, surrendering them totally to God by use of the practical applications she offers in her book and DVD group experience. From the realness of life's issues shared by women face-to-face on the DVD and the times of reflection and journaling taught in her book as well as the discussions by Nicole at the end of every chapter so readily available on my computer, I had everything essential to my success and you will too. This book and DVD curriculum offer all you need for a group setting except, of course, some delicious refreshments and a comfy couch! I would recommend this book and DVD to any group of women who are ready to choose growth and are challenged to succeed because, as Nicole sweetly states, it's built into the fiber of our souls to be reborn into Christ and to keep in step with His Spirit within us. It's not the easy path, but it's the dynamic, holy, and beautiful one!
I received a complimentary copy of this book from Tyndale House Publishers for review purposes.
Enough about me, let's talk about you. What do you think of me? - C.C. Bloom, Beaches
The above quote is from the book She's Got Issues, in chapter five entitled "Insidious Insecurity" which I believe is a good way to sum up the issues that many women face today.
Author, Nicole Unice in the book and DVD brings to light the issue of insecurity, as well as others such as comparisons, fear, anger, and unforgiveness. She also warns about the damage they will do to our relationships with Christ, our families and our lives, if left unchecked. Using Scriptures from the Bible, that author lays a good foundation on how to deal with these peace-stealers and how to enjoy God's presence while also restoring our joy in the everyday, mundane things in life. The same things, that may have become triggers for our issues.
Small groups will be in for treat using the book along with the DVD Group experience. In the DVD, Nicole and her friends bravely share their own experiences with control, insecurity, fear, anger and unforgiveness and the negative effects of that behavior, and how it can spill over into the lives of the ones we love.
Highly Recommended. She's Got Issues book and DVD Curriculum will be an enjoyable and refreshingly new way for women to face and discuss the tough issues facing women of all ages, cultures, and backgrounds. I encourage getting the curriculum for yourself or for small discussion groups.