I was so excited to interview Nicole Unice at the launch of her first traditionally published book, She's Got Issues: Seriously Good News for the Stressed-out, Secretly Scared Control Freaks Like Us. I wanted to read and post a book review right away, but I also took three classes this summer. Reality has set in and I have read 19 school books (and they are not small) since I posted Nicole's interview in June. So I publicly apologize to Nicole and Tyndale for my delay in reviewing.
In the book, Nicole uses her counseling, ministry, and personal experiences to address the top five issues that affect womenâ€”control, insecurity, comparisons, fear, and anger (which also includes unforgiveness). In her writing, Nicole draws on the truths of scripture without brow beating or being preachy. She breaks down these very serious topics and puts them in the face of scripture in a manner that is digestible for the reader.
The one thing Nicole desires is that we confront our issues. But to confront our issues, anyone who has ever attended an AA meeting with tell you, "You have to first admit you have a problem." We all have a sin problem and that problem hurts us individually and it hurts the people around us. If you are wondering whether or not you have issues, take a hard look at the health of your relationships. In the Bible, James writes, "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you can't have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures (James 4:1-3)."
So there you have it. Our sin distorts our motives, our relationship with God, and our relationship with others. Nicole challenges the reader to confront our issues (or sins) by seeking God and developing spiritual disciplines. In addition to providing practical strategies, the book contains guided prayers, journal exercises, and group discussion questions.
Which leads to my DVD review: It is my opinion that practical helps are most successful when affirmed in the context of a community. It is much easier to change your eating habits, lose weight, workout, stick to a diet, or accomplish any practical life goals once you have 1.) publicly confessed your desires and plans and 2.) asked someone to encourage you and help you work that plan. This is the importance of trusted small groups and friends.
Nicole has outlined the DVD in such away that friends, small groups, or book clubs can gather for 1 Â½ hours of intimacy. The group sessions begin with Nicole's one-on-one session with a woman who is bold enough to publicly acknowledge and confront her issue. Then there is a [break] or pause segment to allow time for personal reflection and journaling. Nicole then closes and a teaching session on the topic. This format makes things easy for a group facilitator.
The DVD and book together make a perfect pair. I smiled while reading the "She's Got Issues Creed" at the end of the book. We all need to hold our issues loosely and hold this creed close to our hearts. If you want to know what it is, you have to pick up the book. Are you ready to confront your issues?
this book focuses on 5 main issues that the author believes most women struggle with at least one of the five. She defines the issue and helps the reader see how to deal with the issue through scriptures as well. An excellent study to use this fall in a ladies group.
I received a free copy in exchange for my honest review.
Nicole is a gifted author, Christian counselor and youth leader who shares her struggles with control, insecurity, comparison, fear and anger (along with unforgiveness). In her experience, she has found that these "issues" seem to be common among most women and this book/study was written to help the reader live in victory vs defeat. The book includes 14 chapters that can be read by itself or can be used along with the 6-session DVD. As mentioned before the topics range from dealing with fear and anger to giving up control. Each chapter concludes with a prayer and heart probing questions with space to journal as well as a link to bonus youtube videos.
In the first chapter- Cheap Plastic Souls, the following questions really struck home, "If the grocery store cashier or your kid's teacher or the last waiter who served you described you with complete honesty, would loving be there first word he or she would use? Or would you be known by something else..." I have been challenged with the fact that so many well-meaning Christians don't exude true biblical love-love according to Luke 10:27, Matt 22:37-39, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. This has been part of my sanctification - striving to understand and praying about how this looks in one's everyday life.
I received a copy of "She's Got Issues" book and DVD from Tyndale Publishing in exchange for an honest review.
Nicole Unice has written a book that every woman should read. "She's Got Issues" strips away the veneer of perfection we all cling to, revealing the unique, complicated beauty that we all bear. Most refreshing, Nicole shares her own struggles with 'good girl-ness'. Her own personal testimony just adds to the impact of the book.
Topics tackled within the pages are very familiar, at least to me: insecurity, control, and the incessant need to compare myself to just about anyone and everyone I meet. Each chapter is packed with Scripture, closes with a prayer (Nicole calls these "Space Bar"s, and has a few questions for you to journal and/or discuss in a small group.
One of the most unique features is a smartphone code at the end of each chapter that links you to videos from Nicole about what you've just read. I used my iPod to access a few, and they truly add an extra dimension to the book! Technology...isn't it just amazing these days!
I received a copy of "She's Got Issues" from Tyndale Publishing in exchange for an honest review, and I honestly believe this is a valuable resource for women of all ages. In fact, pass this one along to some of the younger women in your circle of influence. If they can get the message early on...oh, the freedom they will walk in! Recommended.
This book focuses in depth on 5 main issues that most women struggle with, along with helpful suggestions and explainations written in a counselor's voice. Women's stories and authors included are brought into the chapters to show how others can identify with the issues being presented and what they have gone through. Also how Jesus fits into all of our issues and challenges (short comings). Included are personal assessments and self evaluation questions with group answers, prayers and topics for group discussions.
The target audience is women. Some chapters I was able to relate to, others not so much. Each reader can pick and choose which issues, or all of them, she feels needs addressing in her life. The assessment questions were beneficial in addressing my issues. I found this to be a very faith inspiring book and would recommend this book to others.