Was recommended by our counselor. It's been healthy for both of us. We bought two of these so that we could each read in our own time on the same days. It's been fun to do the questions together. It's been money well spent. We'll pass them on to friends. God is good!
Our small women's bible study used this book and were so happy with it we completed the DVD/workbook study portion with our husbands. I would highly recommend this book for any couple at any stage, as it has valuable information and techniques regardless of the stage of marriage. However, it would be particularly helpful to those in a engagement/premarital place; I really wish I had seen/read through something like this BEFORE my husband and I married. It would certainly have spared us some tears and heartache! I cannot recommend this book enough!
The main thesis of the book is that marriage is designed to make us more like Jesus. The result of "Jesusness" is more important than happiness. The process of identifying and killing our own selfishness and pride is a very gruesome and painful journey. This is most amplified in marriage. However, the end result is far more loving, joyful, and peaceful than an alternative self-centered path. The labor involved through marriage can count for something so amazing that the most tired spouses will still sing praises to the joy of marriage.