I bought this book a few days after my husband admitted his pornography addiction. It took me about a month before I finally opened it to read it. So much literature out there for wives is aimed at making us equally to blame, calling us "co-addicts" and that kind of language and attitude isn't what I needed for my own healing process. Once I finally decided to read this book, it completed changed my healing process. Yes, the book does devote a large section to understanding male sexual wiring, but I found it helpful to better understand my husband. I really enjoyed how this was written by a married couple that went through this - their personal perspectives, along with the stories shared in the book, really helped me to not feel so alone. So much of what they were saying hit home for me personally and also were on target for my husband. He is currently reading Every Man's Battle and has found it to be equally rewarding for his own recovery.
It was difficult for me to get through the first few pages as it hit home. I thought I was the only one this happened to in my marriage. Reading this book I am convinced that since God forgives me of everything that I have done, I should be able to forgive my husband and to try to help him through this. As I recall, my vows said through good times and bad, and this is one of those really bad times. I thank God this book was written to open my eyes to continue to love my husband.
My wife bought this book for herself after we had been separated for awhile due to my pornography habits. She bought "Every Man's Battle" for me and those books have truly healed our marriage. There is so much that she learned about me in "Every heart Restored" and that I learned about myself. I thought I was the only man with these problems but these books helped my wife and I realize that I am not.
If you're searching for help and hope as a result of betrayal, look elsewhere. With something like one-third of the book dedicated to defining and defending the "sexual wiring" of a man, this feels more like a bad attempt to justify and defend all the excuses and reasons why so many men cannot figure out how to live Godly lives of sexual purity and integrity. This, in my opinion, is not a safe place for women to go for healing and restoration and certainly not a message our desperate culture needs.