We've come to expect candor in a caring manner from Jill Rigby and she doesn't disappoint in her latest release Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World. She addresses the three parenting types, parent-centered, child-centered and character-centered.
It's easy to look around and see examples of parent-centered and child-centered parenting styles. Both types make me cringe for different reasons. What is not seen as often is character-centered parenting. Jill provides example after example of why it is so important to focus more on our children's characters rather than their (or our) comfort.
This book not only makes a great read for parents, but it would make an awesome study for your small group or moms group. The chapters are short enough to be manageable yet long enough to get to the heart of the matter. In the back of the book is a small group study guide that is broken down into seven sessions. One of the other things I really like is the Must Read Books for Parents in Appendix D.
If you are struggling with your kiddos or even if you are not and just need affirmation that you are on the right path, pick up a copy of Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World. You and your children will benefit from it.
I received a copy of this book to facilitate my review.
Life sure is different from when I was a kid. Kids are different too.
Now, it seems like parenting is all about building a child's self esteem. That might sound good, but Jill says that it is a violent storm blowing destructive winds through our society. It signals a culture gone awry, drowning in narcissism.
The goal of raising respectful children who become respectful adults has never been more difficult, Jill says. But the obstacles have never been more obvious.
This book shows how parents can recover effective parenting. She reveals the destructive character qualities that develop in children because of the emphasis on self esteem. She identifies the role of parents and the effectiveness of character-centered parenting. She covers the four stages of child development and helps you create a family survival plan. She shows how to coach your kids - realistically, with no false praise. She explores how to set necessary boundaries that do not become walls. She writes about how to discipline your kids, not punish them. She reveals the filth your kids are exposed to and gives ways to keep it from overtaking them. She gives suggestions for stimulating your kids' imagination instead of just entertaining them. She helps you develop an attitude of gratefulness in your children instead of greediness.
I think Jill has correctly identified the problem families face today. Intentional parenting, focusing on character, raising responsible adults, is a difficult task today. Jill helps parents by giving encouragement and suggesting really practical ideas that are age related.
Warning: parents, this means you will have to be involved in your children's lives. You may have to turn off your cell phone and the TV. You may have to give up some of your own social activities to be with your kids. But if you are really willing to tackle intentional parenting, this book is a good place to start.
This is an update of the book released in 2006. Jill has added several features including a Study Guide for individuals and small groups.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher for the purpose of this review.
Jill Rigby Garner is a character education and parenting expert, a nonprofit founder and a dynamic speaker. On top of all that, she is an award-winning author, and the publisher of character education programs. Jill is also the CEO of Manners of the Heart - a nonprofit organization dedicated to transforming homes, schools, and communities through our character education programs, curricula, workshops, and parenting books.
Jill's latest book; Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World teaches the benefits of "character-centered parenting." This parenting style focuses on the child's character - who you want them to be - and less on the child's comfort.
This style of parenting seems to be found less and less in the world. Many children either get raised in homes where the parents put themselves first and the children get "scraps" and "left overs" from parenting, or the exact opposite, wherein the parents build their entire lives around the kids, spoiling them with gifts and only offering light to almost non-existent punishment.
Miss Garner argues for parents who not only establish real rules and guidelines in the home - but who also have consequences when those rules are broken. She offers that the best thing you can "give" your child is your time.
But this book is valuable for another reason because it takes a look at the culture our children are being raised in. Much of media targeting adults and children centers on creating an unsatisfied spirit. I know much of my own child's frustration and tears stem from unfulfilled expectations. The world is telling your children what they need to be happy, but the reality is - YOU should be telling your children what they need. And the bottom line is - they need parents who love them.
Miss Garner is a Christian and this book is published from a Christian publisher, so know if you decide to read it, you will be introduced to scripture and Christian ideology. The good news is, I think this is a book for everyone - of all faiths - the author does not beat you over the head with the bible, she merely uses it to support her points.
This is a fast read and well recommended for those looking to learn a little more about raising children.
Thank you to Howard books for a review copy of this title for a fair and honest review.
I checked out this book at the library and decided I needed to own a copy and give a copy. I wish I had read this when my kids were younger. Excellent parenting advise. Would be a great baby shower gift.
This book should be required reading for all parents, grandparents, teachers, childcare workers, pastors, anyone involved in the lives of children. The parents that I have discussed a part of it with sat with mouths open. Yes, read this book.