Fair warning: This book may make those of you with tender hearts - cry_ hard.
Not all of us are called to be an advocate for children but all of us who follow Christ should do everything they can to stand up for and help any child who is not being treated the way they should - even if all we can do about that treatment is pray!
No. It's not enough to just be a good parent to your own children, although that is one good way to show others how children should be treated.
It's also very important to raise up our children the way we want them to raise up their own.
If more parents were properly informed of how to be the parent that God calls us to be, there would be a lot less children in need of wonderful organizations like the Big Oak Ranch.
I wholeheartedly recommend this book to EVERY parent! Having said that, it really doesn't matter if you have children yet or not and it doesn't matter if you have children but only boys_
Boys need the principles in this book just as much as girls. They also need to know to look for a young woman with all of these principles to marry one day. And they need to know how to incorporate these principles in their own children one day.
I feel it would be beneficial reading for parents who might not have had the best childhood themselves.
After reading this book with tears running down my cheeks, I realized that I was just as much in need of these principles as my daughter. I have spent so much of my life thinking very little of myself - because I listened, far too much, to the people in the world. Unfortunately the world is, far too often, full of people who do everything they can to drag you down.
And I didn't have a clue that I needed to be praiseworthy, righteous, stable_ I never knew how important it was to have a servant's heart or Christ-like character. Nobody taught me - and it wasn't really my mother's fault either because nobody taught her either. And my dad is another story that I won't go into here_
But since I became a mother, I have finally begun to follow God's leading in my heart and in my life and with that has come a greater understanding of what being a mother means according to his word.
And I feel that this book will be a tremendous help in that endeavor. As it would be for any other parent who is trying to raise a Proverbs 31 woman!
I received this book free in exchange for an honest review.
So many little girls dream of being a princess, but former Alabama defensive back, John Croyle, has further defined exactly what qualities it takes to raise your little girl to be more than just a fairy tale princess, but to truly be a princess---a daughter of the King. Croyle, founder of the Big Oak Boys Ranch in Southside, AL, and Big Oak Girls Ranch in Springville, Alabama, uses the example found in Proverbs 31 to raise girls to become strong, courageous, compassionate young women.
Croyle, through the acronym P.R.I.N.C.E.S.S, says there are 8 virtues to remember and practice for raising your daughter.
Praiseworthiness - A princess understands she is worthy of praise simply because she is made in the image of God.
Righteousness - She lives according to God's normal, not the world's normal.
Initiative - A princess makes good things happen.
Nurture - God built into girls and women an instinct for nurture that boys and men simply don't have in the same way.
Character - A girl of character knows what her deepest desires are and chooses accordingly.
Empowerment - Your princess needs to understand life isn't just something that happens to her. She has the power to choose.
Servant-Heartedness - A princess finds purpose not in being served, but serving others.
Stability - As stability is provided for daughters, they will grow into the kind of people who help create stability for others.
Although the book is written primarily toward men, the book absolutely can be used by women, too. The importance is in raising your daughter to be the confident, compassionate person she is cable of becoming. Croyle and his wife, Tee, are the parents of a daughter and a son, but also have 40 years experience in helping to raise abused and neglected children and repair the damage done to them by others, usually their parents.
Each child who moves to one of the ranches is told 4 things during their initial meeting with "Mr. John":
1. I love you.
2. I'll never lie to you.
3. I'll stick with you until you're grown.
4. There are boundaries; don't cross them.
Building the trust of a child is just the initial step From there, he and the house parents make the above principles a part of teaching a girl that she is of value to herself, to others, and to God. This book was filled with wisdom that a parent can use to instill confidence and build trust with their child. You won't raise a perfect child---no one can make that promise---but I have heard numerous success stories of children that had gone through unimaginable lives and these practical and godly principles made the difference. You will want to go through this one with a highlighter! It was all good, but several things just made me stop and want to soak in the words I had read. This is the perfect gift for anyone who will have a part in raising a little girl.
Disclaimer: I received this book free from Shelton Interactive. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
There were two things that drew me to this book. The first is John Croyle himself. Anyone that would give up a promising career in the NFL to start a place like Big Oak Ranch for abused and neglected children is someone that I want to listen to.
The second thing that drew me was the principle of raising daughters with the end in mind. In the end these girls are going to go on and raise daughters of their own and pass on to them what they know. If we take that into account we have a long range perspective that will impact not only our daughters but our daughter's daughters and beyond.
Most of the concepts outlined in the book aren't new, they are just under used in our current culture. John's systematic approach to raising our girls to be godly women is not only doable but practical as well. One of the main things that you are going to come away with is the knowledge that ultimately what YOU do and model is what is going to stick with your daughter. So with that in mind I think this is really more a book about who you are as a parent than who your daughter is.
I enjoyed this book and found it to be very thought provoking. I think it would make a great addition to any parent's reading list that desires to raise a daughter worthy of the KING.
I received a copy of this book to facilitate my review.