While this was a very timely and helpful book, it was really only a jumping off place as an explaination for the down side to "Shades of Grey" for me. This did, however, give me a place to begin in finding answers as to why and how sexuality has gotten off track today. I appreciate very much the honesty and insight the author brought into this book's pages. I would like to see her delve even deeper into this subject matter and will be looking into future works written by her.
Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery tell it bluntly. My heart is so troubled for women of all ages who have been lured into the temptations of erotic books, movies and porn. These women explain the damage that can follow after getting hooked on this type of entertainment. They are straightforward and compassionate as they write. I would recommend this to any woman who is thinking of reading erotic romance novels or has become hooked on it and is looking for a way out.
I think I first heard of "Fifty Shades Of Grey" two and a half years ago, when a fellow blogger mentioned that it was on her to-read list. I really had no idea what it was, but I quickly learned enough to decide it wasn't a good thing and avoid it. Only later did I realize just what exactly is in this book, and the damaging effects this type of "literature" is having on women and the culture. I have not read "Fifty Shades Of Grey", and I will not see the movie. I don't think I have to read it to have an intelligent conversation about it. But I know enough to be deeply concerned. From what I can tell, this book (and/or movie) is full of abuse, even ra.pe, and it is somehow wrapped up in a romantic package. I don't care if there is some sort of "redemption" at the end, romanticizing and promoting abusive se.xual relationships is not okay. I like to be informed on cultural issues. I don't think Christians should bury their heads in the sand about anything, we should be able to address issues and defend the biblical perspective. For that reason I picked up a copy "Pulling Back The Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, And The Longings Of A Woman's Heart" by Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery (who used to be a co-host of the Focus On The Family Radio broadcast). In this book, Gresh and Slattery address this genre of literature, why it is appealing to women, why it is ultimately harmful to women, and how we can and should address this issue as Christian women. I got so much out of this book, even though I have never read ero.tica. This book challenges you to look at your own heart and s.ex life to see if there is anything that is preventing you from reaching true intimacy, and I appreciated a lot of what it had to say. I have always felt a little wary about even some Christian romance novels when I feel they are getting a bit too descriptive, or TV shows that focus too much on s.ex - because I know the effect that can have on me, and I know it's slippery slope. This book challenged me to keep a vigilant eye on what kind of things I allow into my mind, and it was encouraging to realize that I am not being a prude by limiting what I watch and read. I just want my se.xual excitement to come from my husband alone - that is God's plan and ultimately it will make our s.ex life healthier! This book also gave a lot of talking points and food for thought on why ero.tica is harmful, and I think it was really good information for me to have, even though I've never read it. I think it would be that much more helpful to someone who is currently struggling with an interest (or addiction) to ero.tica. And I just want to say, lest anyone think this book was a big list of "don't's", that ultimately this book had themes of hope and freedom. Hope to overcome se.xual addictions, and a hopeful message of the kind of freedom and pleasure that is available when women are brave and strong enough to stick to God's plan. Whether or not you have read "Fifty Shades", "Pulling Back The Shades" is worth a read.
Note: I received copy of this book for free from the publisher in exchange for this review. This is my honest opinion.
honestly i hadnt read the 50 shades book and while the pulling back the shades book seemed like a good starting spot, i dunno. as an early 30 woman, no tv, very little of this book was all that relevant to me. after i started the "pulling back the shades" book i looked into the 50 shades book. seems to me IF IT HAD BEEN SET IN A TRAILER PARK WITH A MAN OF AVERAGE INCOME IT WOULD BE LABELED FILTHY PORN OUTRIGHT. OBSCENITY LAWSUITS WOULD ABOUND. for the book or movie. again i didnt finish pulling back and hadnt really even heard much of 50 shades
I recommend this book to any and every woman, single or married. As a culture, we are inundated with images and descriptions of relationships between men and women, most of them leaving women longing for more from the men in their lives. This book directly addresses the five longings that women possess and how erotica skews the fulfillment of these longings.
Gresh and Slattery are transparent, straight-forward, and honest about their own struggles, and the Lord's healing of their hearts. This difficult topic is handled openly - the dialog may feel uncomfortable at times - but with grace and love for the reader.