In this review, I want to also respond to the Persistent Widow. It is unfortunate this person had a bad experience, but her experience must have been from her and/or her church misapplying the principles in this book. This book does NOT encourage people to remain in an abusive situation. In fact, it encourages the use of the legal system where abuse is present. If the Persistent Widow was in a physically abusive situation (and we know that physical abuse is against the law) she should have removed herself and had her husband processed through the legal system, while still adhering to the biblical principles of forgiveness and the possibility of reconciliation, which this book encourages. I just wanted to make this point clear so that others are not misled by what the Bible teaches, which is the foundation for this book.
I found the book to be extremely informative, biblically sound, and useful for teaching/reminding how much reconciliation is the heart of God. But as with anything that is righteous, it must also be applied wisely.
I had been in verbally and mentally abusive marriage for many years, and as the abuse continued to escalate, I came to my church for help. They recommended Peacemaker mediation in which this book was required reading and the mediation focused on this book's principles. Through the counseling, my husband was empowered and began seriously threatening my life because of it. Matters became much worse for me with this counseling. If you are in an abusive situation, do NOT agree to go to any counseling with the Peacemaker book as it's focus. I fared much better at the local abuse crisis center. At least they took me seriously and offered protection. Some relationships are not safe.
For an accurate review of this book in domestic violence settings, internet search these key words...Peacemaker Crippen.