Mr. Abraham takes his reader on a very touching and moving journey as they travel the road of dementia with his mother. He covers many characteristics that are associated with dementia patients. This was a very enlightening book and one that I'm passing on to family members as we start are journey on this road with my father. I just wish I could say that our journey is as sweet as Mr. Abraham's, but unfortunately it hasn't been. I've learned from him and trust that passing this book on to siblings will help them to gain a beginning understanding of our dad's condition. This book was very informative and many ideas were passed along-Lord willing we'll be able to implement them as the need arises. He does refer to some medical terms and steps involved with dementia; however, for the most part the book is a how they handled the conditions and what could possible work in situations. Humor is sprinkled in as he tells his story. At the close he gives survival tips and suggestions for making the best of situation if you find yourself in it.
Abraham describes with precise accuracy what it's indeed like to lose a loved one even though he/she is still physically here on earth. The "losing" he is referring to is the loss of their personalities, self-sufficiency, and independence.
Sometimes the beginning of this downward change is not evident to us, who see our loved ones daily or weekly, as easily as it is observed by others who may not see them as often. It is this initial realization and acceptance which is a huge part of the process, since we all tend to rationalize away truths and cope with things by making light of things that are serious, especially when it comes to our families.
If you've begun to notice some symptoms of any of the forms of dementia in your loved one(s) â€” such as paranoia, hallucinations, forgetfulness, personality reversals, hiding things and then not remembering where they were placed â€” When Your Parent Becomes Your Child will likely be a huge helpmate (and perhaps a relief, after you realize that you are not the only one working with a loved one who is facing this ailment).
Not as much a medical guide as it is a friendly shoulder to lean on (along with giving gentle yet helpful advice on dealing with dementia in a loved one), this book is a wonderful resource for families everywhere. Humor to lighten the load, as well as Scriptural reminders to constantly revere, respect, and honor one's parents, are scattered throughout.
Abraham describes his heartwrenching journey with his mother until the very end. He rounds out the book by summing up survival tips and suggestions at making the best of the unwanted situation.
All in all, the story of Abraham and his great love and sacrifice for his mother touched me deeply, and I'm glad I was able to receive and review this book. As he said numerous times within the book's pages, "My mother taught me how to live; now she's teaching me how to die." And she certainly did. With grace and love.
When Your Parent Becomes Your Child by Ken Abraham is a look at living life as a caretaker of a family member with dementia. This book takes the reader from the early parts of dementia when people are looking at aging people and wondering if they are getting a little forgetful or paranoid and takes you right through to death. This story looks at the physical as well as mental debility of this disease. It looks at the decision making that must take place though the author is obviously a person of financial means and had many benefits not available to some even of average incomes. The reader will look at how faith can carry both the caretaker as well as the victim through the horrible ravages of this disease. Mr. Abraham looks at his own feelings about death and dying in an honest way. He is blessed in that it would appear his family was in complete agreement in the decision making as each one occurs. That doesn't always happen in family no matter how loving they may have been before the disease.
This is a book that I can't say that I enjoyed reading but it is a book that should be read by those who are facing the death of a family member from most any disease. Some of the decisions made in the book though may not be the decision of the reader need to be dealt with in a way that is best for each family. Mr. Abraham brings to the discussion how he came to decide on many of his decisions and he looks at the pros and cons each.
I was provided this book by Booksneeze for this review.
When Your Parent Becomes Your Child isn't your typical book about dementia. Ken Abraham's book is unique, because it is written in a memoir or journal-style, rather than a medical or how-to format. Though you will learn about dementia as you're reading the book, and it does include some helpful appendices at the end, it is primarily a book that encourages those of us facing dementia in our families. It helps to know we aren't alone, and to read the story of another Christian who has already walked the painful path we're on, with dignity and grace.
Ken Abraham and his siblings didn't realize their mother was dealing with dementia at first; they didn't realize that strokes were affecting her ability to think clearly and to function on her own. As her behavior grew increasingly odd, they just chalked it up to their quirky mom and the aging process. They tried to reason with her, not realizing she was beyond the point of reasoning in some areas. Their journey was a difficult and painful one, and Ken Abraham shares their story with us in When Your Parent Becomes Your Child. The subtitle is "A Journey of Faith Through My Mother's Dementia", and it's a very fitting description of the book. Ken's book is the very personal saga of his own faith and his changing relationship with his mother as her dementia progressed.
It's hard to say you enjoyed a book on such a difficult topic, but I can definitely say that I was touched by this book. I found myself completely drawn into the Abraham's story and compelled to keep reading. I read it as quickly as I often read fiction books. Much like our own situation, their mother was a widow, and they tried their best to help her function while still allowing her to live on her own ... with mixed results. Eventually, they too faced the moment when they realized she could no longer live on her own, and she was moved into a nursing home. Though our family is dealing specifically with Alzheimer's Disease, this book addresses the broader topic of dementia. It will be a helpful resource and source of encouragement to many families who are dealing with dementia from varying causes.
If any member of your family is suffering from dementia, I highly recommend this book. If you're a Christian doctor or pastor, I recommend reading this book to better help the families you serve. It's not a fun read, but it is poignant and meaningful.
This book was provided to me free, for review purposes, from BookSneeze. I was not required to post a positive review, and no other compensation was given for this review. The views contained in this review are my own.
I picked this title to review for Booksneeze.com because I have a Grandmother living with me and one that is in a residential care facility, against her will. I wanted to better understand some of the things that are happening to the wonderful ladies in my life. It is very hard to watch and understand. This book has helped me to understand some of the things that my Grandmother is doing. I can relate to many of the situations Ken speaks of in his book. Although I did not know at the time the things that Grandma was doing was because of maybe the onset of dementia.
Both my grandmothers are exhibiting behavior that is not normal for them. They have always been women of extreme faith and that is not who I see in them now. I will be passing this book onto my mother and her siblings to educate them in what is happening with their mother. I highly recommend this book. If you have aging parents or grandparents this book is for you.