"The Creator of the heavens and the earth fashioned you to be the mother of the children He has entrusted to you. What joy it is to embrace the role of motherhood, free ourselves from the traps that aim to devour and devalue us, and live a momlife worthy of His calling. This doesn't mean a momlife without challenges or mistakes, but a momlife increasingly dependent upon our heavenly Father" (p. 153).
Motherhood is full of blessings and challenges. And sometimes it can seem that the challenges outweigh the blessings. Eyster takes a candid look at the most common attitude traps that moms fall prey to. Using humor and real-life examples, she helps debunk these traps and points us to the one perfect parent: God. She discusses seven traps: Just a Mom, Me Mom, Martyr Mom, Busy Mom, Mirror Mom, Tomorrow Mom, and They Say Mom. Each chapter ends with a brief quiz to see how embedded in each trap you are, as well as though provoking questions to help pull you out of that particular trap.
Just glancing through the chapter list, it was easy to see a couple of particular traps that are catchy for me, but reading the entire book helped open my eyes to just how subtle some of these traps are. I really appreciated Eyster's candidness and the encouragement that she offered. At the end of the book, she brings it all together by providing four practical faith steps to stay in tune with God as we allow Him to equip us for the task of motherhood: spend time daily in prayer, find a mentor, seek opportunities to serve, and study His word daily.
I would definitely recommend this book to all moms, particularly those that are really struggling with embracing their role as mother. The set-up of the book also makes it perfect for book clubs or small groups to read together and discuss. Overall, this was a great read!
(I've received this complimentary book from Tyndale House Publishers in exchange for a review. A positive review was not required and the views expressed in my review are strictly my own.)
Wow. In the midst of life, I find myself worn out! We've started homeschool, we're gearing up for choir and soccer, we are still adjusting to attending a new church, there are lots of changes right now with friends moving and changing jobs, and within our own family Hubby has some serious training this fall that will be turning our lives upside down even more. I'm tired and I'm cranky and I'm finding it easy to say well if it wasn't for this XXXXX or if it wasn't for that XXXXX or if this was different XXXX, THEN I could relax, be in a better mood, accomplish more, laugh a little, heck I could breath a little!
Then God stepped in. In black and white words typed on a page He reminded me that it isn't about me. He reminded me that my attitude shouldn't be based on this or that. He reminded me that I need to Be the Mom He has called me to be in every circumstance. Wow. His timing is always perfect.
If you are finding yourself in the midst of storms or even if you are in the rut of everyday life as a mom trapped in a heap of laundry and grocery lists, you need to read Be a Mom by Tracey Lanter Eyster. Tracey is a real mom like us and she gives it to you straight. She isn't trying to talk over your head or make you feel bad about yourself. Tracey (I feel like I know her on a personal basis after reading this book) just wants to encourage us so we can be the BEST moms we can be. She wants us to be good moms because she knows that mom's attitude impacts the whole house.
Be the Mom outlines traps that we so easily fall into. Take no fear, she isn't just wagging her finger at us telling us all the things we shouldn't do. No. She is giving us advice. Simple, inexpensive, Bible based ideas to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, say a prayer, and move on to a better day, a better relationship with our families. This book was so timely for me.
I received this book from Tyndale Blog Network for the purpose of review. All opinions are my own.
"Overcome attitude traps and enjoy your kids" is what the subtitle of the book is. And it's true. Tracey Eyster presents the 7 most common "mom traps" that women may/will get caught up in at some point in their mom life. She also gives helpful hints for how to get yourself out of the traps. Being that the author is a mom herself, she's not just making this stuff up, she's lived it! Overall, Be the Mom is a well-written book. Honestly, it's exactly what I needed to read in this season of my life. I know I'm not alone (which she reminds us in the book). If you're a mom, read this book!
Disclaimer: I received this book for free from Tyndale in exchange for an honest review.
Sighing. I find myself doing it a lot some days. It's because I'm not a huge fan of interruptions and it's because I'm selfish and neither of those issues mesh well with life as a work-at-home mom of three young daughters.
So, I sigh. "Mom, can you?" Big, shoulder-heaving sigh. "Mom, I need help . .. " Deeply dramatic sigh. "Mom, I'm thirsty. I'm hungry. I'm tired. Can I cuddle? Can we play Candy Land?" More sighing.
Sometimes (maybe more often than that), I need the reminders in Tracey Eyster's book on being the mom---that this time with my young kids is precious and short-term, gone before I know it. She hits on attitude "traps" that probably many of us fall into---feeling like a martyr, trying to do this whole mom-thing like everyone else tells us to, being too busy to stop and build into relationships with our kids, and even feeling like we're of little value. Yes, we begin to feel like we're "just a mom."
With lots of grace, humor and vulnerability about her own tough mom moments, Eyster gives us an attitude check. She's laced practical tips with Scriptural encouragement and storytelling, making this book feel like a big sister or an older friend sharing some wisdom she's learned along the way.
Chances are good that if you are a mom, you'll find yourself somewhere on these pages. I did at times. And when I did, I was reminded to make some changes so my kids feel like they are important to me, worthy of my attention and not the recipients of sighing anytime they need my help or affection.
She writes at the end, "There are no perfect moms, and there are no tips or suggestions that will make you the world's best mom. But there are practical tips and training that can embolden you to stay the course." Books like hers give us the pick-me-up, gentle reminders and advice we need maybe not to be a perfect mom or the world's bet mom, but to be a better mom.
I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
Every mom needs a copy of this book, especially those of us who just happen to have young, energetic children under foot!
One of my absolute favorite quotes from the book was this (in reference to moms calling ourselves "Just Moms"): "You haven't lost yourself; you've found who you were destined to become. You've been given lives to mold and an opportunity to prepare your children for the future. There is nothing "just a mom" about you."
That, right there, has completely transformed the way I think about myself as a mother. My whole life I have wanted to be a mom, but now that I am one I keep wondering where the confident, patient person I used to be has gone! This helped me to realize that the person I used to be was just a stepping stone (an opening act, if you will) to my REAL, LIFELONG job of being a mom. I was born to do this. :)
As moms in today's society, we are surrounded with lies that tell us when we take the time to actively mother our children, we lose ourselves in the process. Although it can certainly feel like this at times, the quote above has reminded me, time and again, that being a mother to these precious children is part of my destiny. On the days that the diaper changes are numerous and the temper tantrums are endless, seeing the "big picture" as Tracey suggests in her book can be just the ticket to keep from having a "Mommy Meltdown".
In addition to this excellent reminder of fulfilling our God-given purpose as mothers, the author lays out several "traps" that moms can get stuck in if we're not careful. I identified with each of the "traps" shared in the book in at least a small way, though the "Martyr Mom" trap might be my worst! I found myself nodding my head in agreement throughout the chapters and was relieved to find some helpful advice for escaping these traps.
Bottom line: If you are the mother of young kids, BUY THIS BOOK (or borrow it from a friend). You won't regret it. It will give you just the encouragement you need while also challenging you to be even more intentional with your kids.