This book saved my marriage of 22 years.My wife filed for divorce and hated my guts.(she said so)I changed as a result of reading the book."If only He Knew" help me to understand by wife's needs, desires and that men and women are wired totally different. Understanding those differences is the key to the happiest marriage possible. I learned how to love my wife the way she needed to be loved, and how to love her in such a way that it made her feel like she was the most important person in my life. (she really was-I just didn't know how to express it). This book opened my eyes to all the things I was doing wrong in our marriage and relationship. Just about every page was like opening a page to my life as it had been--all the negative and critical things I had been inflicting upon my wife and causing her unbelievable pain and emotional scarring in the process.She has told me and her friends that our marriage and relationship has been better in the last 15 years than it ever was prior to my reading "If Only He Knew"