My daughter and I have a wonderful, close relationship. However, we occasionally misunderstand each other and don't always get along perfectly (we're too much alike for our own good :)). I desire to be a better mom and have a deeper & stronger relationship with her. This book helps prepare me for the near future when she steps into adulthood. I don't agree with everything in the book but I still appreciate lots of valuable insights shared by both Cheri Fuller (the mother) and Ali Plum (the daughter). I will keep their warnings in mind; hopefully and prayerfully, by God's grace_I won't make the same mistakes that many moms have made. The authors share about the main ingredients in developing a stronger relationship between mother and daughter which include unconditional love, understanding, prayer, grace, space, prayer, kindness, patience, prayer, acceptance, respect, encouragement, and prayer. You probably get the point that prayer is so crucial. God is still in the business of relationship restoration. I really like the discussion questions in the back of the book for each chapter. These are very good for mothers and daughters to discuss with each other and learn to understand each other better; they are good for mothers to ponder alone, too.
~This book was provided for review by the WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group.
I bought this book hoping it would help me open dialogue with my adult daughter. I found several chapters very pertinent, but most of the book is directed to mothers of daughters who are approaching adulthood, not already there. The book is easy to read, and the discussion questions at the end are wonderful. I gave the book to one of my daughters who has teenage daughters, and I'm sure it will be useful to her for years to come.
The theme of this book is learning the intricate balance of being a mom without mothering too much, letting her know you are there for her without threatening her independence, connecting in friendship on your common ground instead of focusing on the generational differences. When I agreed to review the book written by Cheri Fuller along with her daughter Ali Plum, I didnt realize it was directed to moms. I have two daughtersbut at ages 6 months and 2 years, respectively, they arent exactly adult daughters. So for me, reading Mother-Daughter Duet was more of a chance for reflection on my own relationship with my own mother. And a time of considering the habits and traditions I want to establish with my little girls, who will be 21 before I know it.The relationship of the mother-daughter authors looked much different from my relationship with my mom. Ali and her dad both struggled with alcoholism and depression, Cheri with trying to fix everything and being co-dependent. But what Mother-Daughter Duet so beautifully illustrates is that while every mother-daughter relationship will be different, each has the same themes: generational differences, the transition from childhood to adulthood, the faith of our mothers becoming a personal belief, the craving of respect (for everything from hairstyles to lifestyle choices), the need for letting go, the delight of mother-daughter friendship.