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Number of Pages: 234
Vendor: Thomas Nelson
Publication Date: 2012
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MOMAHOLIC: Confessions of a Helicopter Parent - eBookDena HigleyThomas Nelson / 2012 / ePub$8.79 Retail:4 Stars Out Of 5 9 Reviews
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Every mom has felt the need to be perfect.
MOMAHOLIC is one womans private, dramatic, and often comical invitation to peek inside a time in her life where everything fell apart and she had to take an honest look at what she was doing right and what shed been doing terribly wrong. With this simple discovery, her whacky familys season of becoming unraveled found a new glue (other than her blood, sweat and tears) that would re-bond her family and unite them in a deeper and more functional way than ever before.
The real life characters:
- A MOM who is literally the head writer of a network soap opera at work and at home
- A HUSBAND who expects perfection from his kids and his wife, but who has the wisdom to know hes being unrealistic and yet, cant help but scratch his head in frustration as his familys troubles seem to spiral out of his control
- An autistic SON
- A popular DAUGHTER who is suddenly pregnant
- An ADOPTED DAUGHTER pulled from the jungles of Vietnam with no leg below the right knee and fingers fused together
- An ADOPTED SON from Ethiopia, rescued from the streets at the age of 9.
This is a story showing the speed with which a normal family can fall apart. No one dies. No one gets kidnapped. They just have to deal with each of their own issues .and then one unwanted and unplanned pregnancy. This was a church-going family whose kids were taught abstinence until marriage. With the family running around as the tornado sirens roared warnings to take cover, mother, Miss Drama, becomes the biggest mess of all and ends up finding a whole new freedom for her soul.
Dena Higley, an Emmy award-winning writer, has been the head writer for both One Life to Live and Days of Our Lives as well as a playwright in Glendale, CA. She is a graduate of the USC School of Theatre, where she studied acting under the late John Houseman. She currently resides in La Canada-Flintridge, CA with her husband of 24 years, Mark. They have four children and one grandchild. Dena is an active member of Christian Assembly Church.
toknowhim3 Stars Out Of 5Momaholic Book Review from Book SneezeMay 24, 2012toknowhimQuality: 4Value: 3Meets Expectations: 3My most recent book review is of the book "Momaholic (Crazy Confessions of a Helicopter Parent)" by Dena Higley. To be honest I normally would not have chosen this book to review, but I was intrigued by the description of the book. It is about a mom who was the head writer for the Soap Opera "Days of Our Lives", who has four children; one of them with autism. Two of her children were adopted, and one of them had special needs. So needless to say, I was curious about the story of this particular mother.
I did enjoy this book, and throughout the book Dena talks about her faith. I would have loved to hear her talk more about how her faith actually helped her through her difficult circumstances. I love how Dena was honest about her struggles as a mom and wife. She talks about her journey of learning about her son's Autism and how she dealt with that, as well as finding out her daughter was pregnant outside of marriage and how she dealt with that as well. She goes onto explain how all of these experiences and more, caused her to have a complete breakdown. However, in the end she would share how things would turn around with the help of God and others He put in her life.
One of the major themes of the book in my opinion is the idea of being a "helicopter mom", and how that can be destructive to your children. "Helicopter parenting is "the act of hovering over one's children, anticipating and meeting their every need: may or may not include cleaning up after said children, "helping" with homework, and presiding over numerous social activities: this method of childrearing is often defined by grumpy, needy children and overworked, exhausted moms: declared a national epidemic by The Association for Tired Parents" (Taken from the back of the book). Dena shares in great detail how her own "helicopter parenting" affected her children, and how after coming to grips with what she was doing she decided to make changes. I think she hopes that by sharing her experiences she can help other moms learn from her mistakes. I think that is exactly what could happen when a reader reads Dena's book.
I was given this complimentary copy of this book by Book Sneeze in return for writing this review.
StephMidwestAge: 45-54Gender: female3 Stars Out Of 5An insightful book.May 21, 2012StephMidwestAge: 45-54Gender: femaleQuality: 3Value: 4Meets Expectations: 4Dena Higley author of "Momaholic: Crazy Confessions of a Helicopter Parent" shares her soap opera life with readers in this honest and humorously written book. An award-winning writer, Mrs. Higley has been the head writer for the actual soap operas, One Life to Live and Days of Our Lives. In this book, she details her own life and how she realized that she could no longer control every aspect of her children's lives.
In today's world, (at least in the American world) it seems that families are falling apart. And considering the difficulties some of Mrs. Higley's children faced, I understand her need to hover over her children in an effort to assure their success not only as children but also as adults. With an autistic son, and two adopted children who had problems of their own, Mrs. Higley hovered. And her family suffered for it!
Slowly, after a night spent in the emergency room, Mrs. Higley begins the slow process of realizing that her pursuit of perfection was futile. With her family in crisis, she took a long, hard look at herself and released her family into the knowing hands of God.
This book is written from an honest viewpoint. She lists the signs of a helicopter mom, so that readers might recognize it in themselves and not make the same mistakes as she. Momaholic: Crazy Confessions of a Helicopter Parent takes us into the lives of an imperfect family and teaches us how to become better parents through mistakes made and behaviors changed.
An insightful book!
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneezeÂ®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
cathyKansasAge: 55-65Gender: female5 Stars Out Of 5funny/sad book of motherhoodMay 5, 2012cathyKansasAge: 55-65Gender: femaleQuality: 4Value: 4Meets Expectations: 5Momaholic, Crazy Confessions of a Helicopter Parent by Dena Higley is about the writer's life. Ms. Higley is a head writer for a soap opera, mother of 4, and wife of 1. She was all things to all people. In order to make the life of all around her perfect she did and was responsible for everything they were involved in. This book is a story of how her life spiraled out of control and how she owned it and changed for the better of herself and her family. She tells a very honest story of her life.
As a person who is a few years ahead of Ms Higley in the parenting game I could truly read this book and laugh and cry; sometimes at the same time. I do hope that parents don't however learn it all and achieve perfection in the parenting game as the stories told around the Thanksgiving dinner table by their children will not be nearly as funny. Ms Higley deals with the grief of raising average so-called normal children better than most and she should feel proud of herself. All of us parents if we're willing to admit it (and we might just as well) have had our crazy times when we spin out of control and have to be reeled back in even without trying to raise children in the "Hollywood scene". I just can't even imagine how that would be. I recommend reading this to any parent but most especially any grandparent because we can look back and laugh.
I recieved this book free from booksneeze for this review.
Archie IsibPhAge: 18-24Gender: male5 Stars Out Of 5Well written, entertaining throughlyMay 3, 2012Archie IsibPhAge: 18-24Gender: maleQuality: 4Value: 5Meets Expectations: 4Helicopter parents have been around since the beginning of parenting, most likely. But the practice of over-parenting came into its own sometime during the 1990s when parents were bombarded with news stories about child abductions, academic competition, and ultimately, competition in a global economy. This epic has change the way I see my parents concerns. I loved this book! I couldn't put it down. The story is honest and heart-felt and a truly inspirational read. It takes a lot of courage to come out and talk about the kind of things that Amanda Beard does in her book. It helps to be a track and field fan while reading this amazing book, but it's certainly not required. The writing is so good and the stories so compelling that anyone who picks up the book will get hooked. The book is full of funny and entertaining stories, but more than that, it issues a challenge to the reader: Every morning when you wake up you get the invitation to live a life of complete engagement, a life where love does.
I would recommend the book to anyone. But obviously this book has emotional healing and the supports parents from her family and friends has helped her come to terms with her past and helped her be willing to give back in this way. This well written and reveling book is a page turner with a happy ending! Highly recommended!
Nellie DeeStone Lake, WIAge: 55-65Gender: female4 Stars Out Of 5This book is a must for mothers of all ages.April 27, 2012Nellie DeeStone Lake, WIAge: 55-65Gender: femaleQuality: 5Value: 4Meets Expectations: 4This book is the story of Dena Higley's dreams and goals of having it all: a perfect family including 2 adopted children, 2 biological children, 2 cats, the dogs, the picket fence and the dream job. She was the driving force keeping everything together.
When I read the description for this book, I just knew this book was for me as, I too, had dreamed of being a perfect mother. I hoped that it would bring some healing to my own parenting experience. I was delighted by her writing style and captured by her story as I related to her experiences. I loved her honesty and sense of humor. I couldn't put the book down.
The author tackles the subject of the pressures of being a perfect mom by likening it to a helicopter. In order to maintain control, she had to hover. Dena realized that she had set herself up for her own failure by this need to control. She shares the details in every area of her life that had to be "in control" all the while contributing more stress to her already stressed out life, which led to her demise: crash and burn.
The author wrote with such passion and insight about each family member that a reader couldn't help but want to meet each one, scoop them up and love them. Of course, the inclusion of pictures solidified it.
It seemed like the book grew a few tentacles by segwaying a bit into her son's college experiences and move across country as well as including a chapter on one of the kid's friends, but as she put it, "it's my story".
I questioned her word from God that she included because it did not ring true. It made me uncomfortable when she said, and I quote, "I'm not going to give you any promises or reassurances in this life." God is a God of Promises and reassurance is everywhere in the Bible.
I liked that she challenged readers to take a 15 question test in order to determine if one might be a Momaholic. I do see a sequel in her future to share the steps and journey she took to overcome her perfectionism and control issues.
This is a great read for every mother and grandmother to ease up and back off, take stock, realize their own limits and say no. The hovering helicopter is an image that will stick in the reader's mind as a valuable tool to kick the "performance and control" habit. I highly recommend this book and am definitely going to share it with my daughters.
Located in: La Canada CA
Submitted: February 14, 2012
Tell us a little about yourself. My name is Dena Higley and I am an Emmy award winning writer who worked in televsion for almost 30 years. I was the headwriter for two Daytime Dramas and now I have written the story of my own true life drama.
What was your motivation behind this project? I was maxed out emotionally, spiritually and physically trying to be the perfect working mother to four children. When my 19 year old daughter came home from college and told me she was pregnant, it was the last straw. I completely unraveled as did my world. This book is about the journey of God putting me back together and healing my family.
What do you hope folks will gain from this project? Maybe I'm not alone. Maybe other women are trying to be the perfect mom, only life isn't perfect and neither are our kids. How do we not only survive but thrive? Maybe my story can help other moms who are struggling with the same issues of trying to be all things to all people and ending up being of no use at all.
How were you personally impacted by working on this project? Forcing myself tell the honest story of my breakdown made me realize what little faith I actually had in God and how little effort I'd put into my relationship with Jesus.
Who are your influences, sources of inspiration or favorite authors / artists? My main source of inspiration comes from the leadership team at my home church of Christian Assembly in Eagle Rock California. Every week, Mark Pickerill, Tom Hughes, Tommy Walker and Jacob Park lead me into the presence of God.
Anything else you'd like readers / listeners to know: My story is not as fraught as it could be. Some of it is actually funny.