i had fairly high expectations for this book and was very pleased with how even my expectations were exceeded. mark and grace go places that most marriage books fear to go. this is not a book about sex, contrary to all the rumors when this book came out. sure there's a bit of reference to it, but sex is only a facet of the marriage relationship. they do a good job addressing this issue. what's worth even more is how they deal with issues of friendship in the marriage, as well as hard topics of abuse. i've not read any marriage studies that addressed this last issue. very profound chapter that deals with all the junk that can remain in a person's life after they experience abuse. easy reading (except for the convicting parts!) and contains some nice stories/illustrations that help maintain interest and give insight.
The book is splitted to 3 parts, 2 of them are large and they are devoted to marriage and to sex. I really like that book is written by man and woman so there are displayed attitude of both partners. Also I appreciated honesty and openness of this married couple, when they admitted their mistakes in their marriage. I believe that practical illustration from life of real people can show us their point of view and understand what they wanted to say.
I also like their researches and very interesting survey into history, where they draw attitude of different churches about sex in marriage. At the end of second part, which is all about sex, I like very interestingly compiled questions, which authors very often got during a period. But itÂ´s not just simple questions, there are 3 other accompanying questions, which authors answer. I will show you example, every reader can see answers on these questions - is it lawful, is it helpful and is it enslaving?
In the third part of the book we can see something like a guide, which can help us, if we need to improove our marriage, change our dirrection, change the way where marriage comes. ItÂ´s real plan, which use Mark and Grace for their marriage, but every reader can modify it. There are a lot of questions, which every couple can answer for themself and build new strategy for their future. At the end of the book are notes and index.
And my opinion? Book is helpful for thinking about our marriage, if everything is right and it can help, if we find out that we have problem. I think that everybody will find something, what show us our imperfection, but we can find answers and hope, that nothing is lost. I recommend this book.
One of the books I finished read together with my husband before 2012 ended was Real Marriage, The Truth About Sex, Friendship and Life Together by Mark and Grace Driscoll. I have quite a handful of thoughts about this very controversial book. While I would love to tackle on each and every controversial detail, I am only limited to a number of words. Since as a Thomas Nelson book reviewer, we are not encouraged to be lengthy, and make the review too informative.
And despite the two issues that I do not exactly agree with in this book, I strongly believe that it is a good book filled with Biblical principles married and engaged couples can greatly benefit from. As we go shopping for decor for valentines day, this can go well as the perfect gift for one's better half.
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While lots of things have changed my marriage for the better, only a very few have enacted dramatic changes. One was learning about personality types from the hilarious Florence Littauer. Another was Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages.
This week I'm adding Real Marriage: The Truth about Sex, Friendship and Life Together by Mark and Grace Driscoll to the list of books that made a dramatic difference.
Mark Driscoll is the pastor of Mars Hill Church in Seattle, Washington. He and his wife bravely opened their lives in order to help others. Within the book they deal with questions such as why friendship with your spouse should be of supreme importance, what disrespect looks like to a man, and who gets to decide if the husband is being loving enough.
They also deal with some culturally explosive topics head on, much of which has received a lot of media attention and put them under fire from both liberals and conservatives. They talk about pornography, sexual abuse, fantasizing about other people, what is and is not permissible in the bedroom. And it's all handled well, adding applicable research and appropriate first-hand testimonies.
Even better! The Driscolls have provided additional resources so that couples can use whatever means necessary to have conversations about the topics in the book. Is one or both of you not a reader? Not a problem! You have options.
First, Mars Hill Church has posted the sermons Pastor Mark did on this book. All eleven chapters are available through eleven different sermons on the church website by clicking here. You can watch the videos or download the podcasts. Much of the content of the book is covered in the sermons. I appreciated these very much because they allowed me to see Mark's heart as he spoke instead of just reading the words on a page and wondering how deeply he felt about the issues.
If one or both of you prefer a DVD-based study to do together, you'll want to check that resource out by clicking here. I do not have the DVD, but I have been told that if you want to do this particular study on DVD, you will also want to buy the book.
Despite the controversy surrounding this book, I feel it is an incredible addition to the toolkit to help and support your marriage.