In Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage, Dr. Greg Smalley asserts that conflict is frequently driven by fear, not the immediate issues at hand. We all have hot button issues, that when pushed, set off an immediate knee-jerk emotional response. Dr. Smalley has included a chart in his book with common reactions and explain what they mean. He has devised a powerful five-step communication process for healthy conflict call the L.U.V.E. talk method. It stands for Listen, Understand, Validate, Empathize, and Apologize. Paperback Edition.
Based on years of counseling, research, and success stories, Dr. Greg Smalley teaches us how to use marital conflict as a way to deepen and strengthen our relationships.
In this counterintuitive book, author Dr. Greg Smalley maintains that fighting is actually good for a marriage. When couples fight, they have the opportunity to get to the real issue that is lurking below the surface of fights about money, sex, in-laws, kids, etc. And that real issue, Dr. Smalley says, is fear—fear of rejection, inadequacy, or powerlessness, to name a few. What assuages these fears are things like intimacy, respect, validation, love, and connection. Learning to take advantage of the opportunity that conflict provides is what this book is all about.
The good news of Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage is that conflict—when handled correctly—is the doorway to intimacy and understanding. As Dr. Smalley leads readers through the many faces of conflict, he is open and candid about his own marriage and the unproductive fights he and his wife have had. He uses his fears and emotional triggers as examples to help readers discover their own.
Couples will learn how to fight their way to a better marriage, using the skills, concepts, and exercises shared in this remarkable book.
Dr. Greg Smalley serves as Executive Director of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family. Prior to joining Focus, Smalley worked for the Center for Relationship Enrichment at John Brown University and as president of the National Institute of Marriage. He is the author of eleven books, including The DNA of Relationships, The DNA of Parent and Teen Relationships, and The Wholehearted Marriage. Greg lives in Colorado with his wife Erin and their four children.
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