With understanding, insight and a solid research, Adams answers many questions asked about marriage/remarriage. He approaches this subject with compassion, knowledge, and counseling expertise in a candid way. He will help the reader to better understand what the Bible says and to experience both encouragement and hope. It is an excellent and effective tool for pastors and counselors. Likewise, I recommend it to anyone who has gone through divorce as well as those who are remarried.
Based strongly in scripture, but a number of the interpretations are overstated and - in my opinion - questionable. Supportive of divorce only in cases of unrepentant infidelity (sex outside of the "marriage bed") and in cases of existing "unequally yoked" marriages (between believers and non-believers).A few observations:1. Makes a distinction between adultery and adultery by fornication, implying that adultery is a distinct, yet linked, act. This seems contrived based on what we find in scripture and Adam's position is largely based on extra-biblical resources.2. Overemphasis on church discipline in divorce, implying "proper" church discipline would resolve most problems with divorce. From the experience of one who has worked within a context of strong church discipline, this is a strongly held but not factual statement.3. Rigorous analysis of marriage and proper procedure seems to assume that later, more detailed (and some extra-biblical) marriage ritual and procedure are normative and binding rather than the loosely undefined essential elements of marriage found earlier in scripture (consider Isaac and Rebekah's "marriage" in Genesis 24:67, for example).4. Approaches marriage/divorce/discipline issues from a disproportionately legalistic perspective. Chapter 14, for example, includes a ridiculously intricate scenario for resolving conflict and divorce obligations spanning two churches. One would think that Jesus himself should be held accountable for not acting more responsibly/procedurally in John 4 (The Woman at the Well) and John 8 (The Woman Caught in Adultery).Summary: Worth reading and thought provoking at times, but consider carefully the assertions and build-up of interpretation for yourself. Certainly one of the stronger examples of meticulous scriptural exegesis in this area. Acknowledging that, it still seems to miss the heart of the matter. Short but dense reading.
I thought this book was very good;speaking to the need I had in finding out what the scriptures had to say on this subject.I feel I am more knowledgeable about this subject. It is a well written book that is not over my head theologically. I recommend it to the lay person as well as pastors and elders.
The authors desire is to have the book be Biblically based and that is good. There was comment that I felt was Catholic bashing that I felt was unnecessary. Good scriptural references. I do not agree on his statement that separation is not Biblical and he stated that he has never seen it have any redemptive purpose. That may be his experience, however, working in divorce recovery, most people I talk that had biblical divorces and separated for a short time would disagree with the author. All would agree that limbo is NOT a healthy place to stay for an extended time, however, to give the unrepentant spouse a set amount of time (maybe a year,) to repent, is very beneficial. Look at Luke 13: 6-9, the tree is not fruitful for three years, yet even it gets one more year before being cut down, wouldnt it seen that a marriage might be given the same consideration?