After 33 years in my first marriage, losing that mate to death and now looking forward to a second marriage, reading this book changed the way I see being married. I'm so looking forward to developing and exercising these principles in my new marriage. What a gift!
My fiance and I both had good first marriages. We read this book together and were inspired by what we read. Our "toolkit" for a successful marriage is now well supplied.
Our marriage was restored beyond our expectations.
May 2, 2012
My husband and I discovered this book as we were experiencing a very low point in our marriage of 25 years. The trials of life had really weighed us down and had created habits that were certainly not positive. It is the very first book about marriage that my husband willingly read WITH ME. It brought each of us insight and understanding- allowing us to move off the "crazy cycle" we had created. Each chapter allowed us to realize that we were not alone in our journey through marriage and to discover practical ways to bring changes to the destructive patterns that were disrupting our ability to enjoy each other and the life God had given to us.
We keep the book in a visible place in our bedroom as a reminder of what God has done to transform our lives. We have both recommended the book to numerous couples who have shared their stories of defeat and frustration. In fact, I stand amazed how many times my husband recommends this book to his clients as they come into his office and share with him about the conflicts in their marriges.
While this book had some good points, it was very much one sided. And repetitive. In my opinion, the author came across in his writing in a way that seemed to make women responsible for all problems in a marriage. I read the ENTIRE book thinking that he would eventually shift his view and discuss the responsibilities of men, but he never did. He also seems to believe that he is the ONLY one who figured out that couples want love and respect in a marriage. I would recommend the book Bringing Out the Best in Your Husband/Wife. These books give a fair view of both men and women. It doesn't come across as biased at all. And, the information is very similar.