4 Stars Out Of 5
Love Isn't Suppose to Hurt
August 13, 2012
modern day Abigail..I am reminded of Denise Jackson's It's Not About Him and Brenda Warner's One Call Away.
Love Isn't Suppose to Hurt is the story of redemption: a woman's story of enduring a spouse's verbal/physical abuse (hanging on), divorce (letting go), and restoration (clinging to God). Thank you Ms. Paul for sharing your story. Absolutely amazing!
A message for healing... Healing is born when we get real with ourselves. Ms. Paul finds peace by being raw and trusting in God with all her heart and leaning not on her own understanding for this situation. Love Isn't Suppose to Hurt is a story about breaking free from the bonds that hold us back from being the whole person God called us to be.
A message for forgiveness...and when you forgive someone, you unchain yourself from anger that's clinging to you. P. 131-135 are the best written within the text. Ms. Paul clarifies what forgives means. It means you're finished holding on to your own anger and resentment. On the following page, Just because you forgive the one who hurt you, it doesn't make that person suddenly safe. Thank you for such truth. Ms. Paul goes on to quote Beth Moore, "Our self-condemning hearts can't block our forgiveness, but they can keep us from feeling forgiven. The result will be a twisted resignation to our own capacity to sin rather than any confidence in God's capacity to restore us."
A message for all women. Love Isn't Suppose to Hurt is a story that needs to be told again and again because these circumstances happen to woman everyday; this is the story of women I know. As a mother, I pray that God will give me wisdom to protect and guide my daughters in this area. Thank you, Ms. Paul, for sharing your healing exercises at the end of the book focusing on gratitude and thanking God. ...He's ready to open the gates of grace every time we fall.