Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt
I felt like the author restrained herself in describing certain situations maybe because its a Christian memoir, but the potential exclusion of details hindered me from actually understanding/empathizing her pain. No doubt words are hurtful and its hard to relive those moments. I just would've appreciated it more if she expressed more. i plan to use some of the exercises recommended from the book.
June 5, 2014
Verbal abuse and recovery
I appreciate that the author wrote this book. A teenage girl that I care about seems remarkably willing to date boys that treat her poorly, and this book helped me understand better where she might be coming from emotionally. The author explained how she meet and married a man who was verbally abusive, what it took for her to leave the situation, and how she healed afterward. She includes some questions in the back that she found helpful to think through.
The author was very clear that verbal abuse is wrong and no one deserves this abuse. However, one of the author's counselors apparently wanted her to discover so many positive outcomes from surviving the experience that she'd be willing to thank her husband for the abuse. Huh?! That's sick. She should be thanking GOD for bringing positive lessons and growth from the experience, not thanking the person who did the abuse. Anyway, it's worth reading despite this.
June 29, 2014
This is the true story of Christi Paul's journey with verbal and emotional abuse. Because she lived with that experience, the author does a good job of showing the abuse she suffered and how she dealt with it. This is her story, from how she met her ex-husband, to how she got out of the relationship and dealt with the aftermath. I found this to be an interesting read."
December 28, 2012
more books are needed on relationship abuse
I bought this book with caution, having bought christian books on relationship abuse before, being very disappointed in them. I admit to being curious, as to how she met her 2nd (and current) husband, within a few short years, after her 1st marriage. He sounds like everything her first husband WASNT, and I wish her all the happiness to come. She had extensive counseling (I couldnt afford this then or now), a very good support team of friends/family (even her in laws!)..which speeded up her recovery. I had friends, or I wouldnt have made it through my own ordeal. At least she had enough sense NOT to bring children into that marriage, and that she got out, before many more years of misery. I didnt, mine was 3 sons and 28 years, but I did leave. It is SO rare for any christian books about spousal abuse to be written anyway. This is a good book to share. More on this subject needs to be 'out there'.
November 9, 2012