Do you feel at a loss when your child is sullen, uptight, or outraged? You'll appreciate youth minister Cross's eye-opening study! Shedding light on the reasons kids get mad at their parents, he addresses touchy issues such as playing favorites, permissiveness, forcing your faith, and more to help you change your approach and foster understanding. 120 pages, softcover from InterVarsity.
Format: Paperback Number of Pages: 120 Vendor: Inter-Varsity Press Publication Date: 2007
Dimensions: 8.25 X 5.50 (inches) ISBN: 083083365X ISBN-13: 9780830833658 Availability: In Stock
I remember one of the first times our younger daughter Amber vented her anger at me for something I did. In reality, it was something I didnt do that made her mad. She had asked me to help her with a paper she was writing for a middle school class. The paper required a lot of research, and Amber didnt know how to go about doing the research. "Theres nothing to it," I assured her flippantly. Then instead of showing her what she needed to do, I simply told her to get started, explaining that she would figure out how to do the research as she went along. She let out an exasperated sigh. "But Dad, I dont know how to--" "Amber, just get started," I insisted with authority, "and youll figure it out." Then I left the room. (from the introduction) When the author understood his mistake, he was able to go and talk with his daughter. As she vented, he began to understand what a capacity parents have to make their kids angry, and how he could change his approach to communicating with his children to improve their relationship. In the years since Roger Cross has been studying the things parents do that make kids angry, such as:
having loose or confusing boundaries
expecting kids to fill adult roles and more
Drawing on his ministry of Youth for Christ along with a survey of one hundred students of varied ages and backgrounds, Roger Cross has created a practical, helpful book for parents who want to understand why their kids are so angry and what they need to do to change.
Roger Cross is president emeritus of Youth for Christ/USA. His experience with Youth for Christ includes two years in Kansas City YFC, fifteen years as executive director of Ventura County YFC, nine years as executive director of Denver Area YFC and nearly fourteen years as president/CEO. He served two terms as field trustee on the YFC National Board, and he received the President's Award for Outstanding YFC Executive Director in America. As an advocate for youth, he is often interviewed in print publications and on radio and television broadcasts. He has done graduate work at Fuller Theological Seminary, and he is an ordained minister through the Missionary Church of Ft. Wayne, Indiana. He also currently serves on the board of John Brown University. In addition to writing, speaking and adjunct college teaching, Roger is heading up an effort to expand the outreach of Children's Music Academy (CMA) which he owns and operates with his wife. Currently, CMA is in over 20 locations in the United States. In 2006, Roger and his wife were selected Alumni of the Year by John Brown University.
"Few parents intentionally set out to make their children angry. But we can--and we do. Roger Cross lifts the shade on some unintentional behaviors that we can avoid in parenting."