This topic is not well understood, especially amongst the Christian community. It is paramount to educate ourselves on types of abuse in order to support and protect the oppressed. Crippen is straight forward and brutally honest.
What a joy to read this thorough report on abuse from a former police officer turned Evangelical pastor...how refreshing to hear a man address the sinful nature of the abuser, the deceit, manipulation and often sociopathic tendencies of abusers (male or female) and how dreadfully unfairly the churches have dealt with the victims. Even their own families are fooled by these manipulators so that the victim is doubly victimized...perhaps if the churches ever get this straight they might find people coming back...but when a woman finds her abusive husband and her parents sharing a pew and condoling about her 'backsliding' when she is cowering in fear of him and terror so much that she is afraid to go to church anymore due not only to fear but to lies, lies damnable lies that have been told about her. This is a real eye opener...reads like nail-biting suspense novel, if only it weren't true! We all need to be enlightened and start having compassion on the suffering sheep and it is high time that we recognized that the beginning of abuse is the breaking of the wedding vows...the end of the marriage, ended not by the victim but by the perpetrator!
This is an excellent book! I highly recommend it to anyone as practical tool to learn about domestic abuse. Certainly every church leader and biblical counselor should have a copy. It's gold! Buy it and read it!
This book provides a theological basis for abuse victims seeking divorce although adultery was not the issue - it was the domestic violence. This enforces that breaking the covenant vows in marriage is like the Israelites breaking their covenant with God. Then God allowed 'divorce' since they broke their vows, and 'remarried', by forming the New Covenant. More churches and their pastors need to be engaged in domestic abuse solutions, and this book is a great 'how to' guide. The victim should never be further victimized by their chur h not 're ognizing' divorce. Great book, a topic which needs to be heard.