This book helped me immensely. I understand the one and three stars, but as one reader said, he/she threw it in the trash after 75 pages. I initially thought the book was harsh and mean. But as I read it and understood what he was saying I began to understand why you have to initially be that way. I am so thankful I chose to finish the book. My husband left me 8 months ago and I was being pathetically nice and taking responsibility for his sin. When I finished the book, I finally got mad. Being a Christian all of my life I thought it would be wrong to get mad. What about love unconditionally, bear one another's burden, etc. Dr. Clarke made me realize that I needed to get mad so I could move on and heal. I did get mad and it lasted for about 2 weeks. I was furious and sent my husband several texts saying so (and wasn't even embarrassed about that). Then the healing started, and now I rarely think about him. Prior to this book I thought about him 24/7, trying to figure out what I did and how I could win him back. Now I know it was his decision, his sin and he is going to be responsible to explain it when he meets God one day. I have my life back, thank you Dr. Clarke. Looking forward to what God has in store for me next.
Just finished reading this book and it is 100% on target. I have been married for 30 years and if the adulterous spouse does not face his/her sin head on, the marriage cannot survive! How do I know? I'm living it! Have been praying for healing from my marriage and God is bringing that around, but my spouse will not participate in recovery and our marriage is falling apart. The only way my marriage will survive is if I stay depressed and broken so he can continue to live in denial of what has occurred. I keep praying that his heart will change. To those that find this book to be horrible, hostile and dangerous, you apparently have not been the victim of such a relationship. This book does not mince any words, but it is completely on target and I have been researching the "healing from affairs" subject for many years. It does seem hostile, but had you continued reading the book you would have learned why. Best book that I have ever read on the "realities" of a marriage recovering from infidelity!!
Been separated for 9+ years, choosing the path of peace. Although the way shown in this book may work for some, it is not what God has called me to. I trust that everyone reading it will consider the other side of this coin and give much thought to love and respect.
I got about 75 pages in to this book and ended up throwing it in the trash. The author's advice is crude, mean, unproductive, angry, hostile, and definitely not true to the teachings of Jesus Christ. The book advises behavior that is childish at best. If you want to make sure you do everything in your power to help ruin your marriage, then this book is for you.
This had some good advice, but it was written entirely for women whose husbands had left them. Your description of the book was misleading. There's no advice for men in that situation. I was disappointed.