Meet Dee Brestin
Dee Brestin’s best-selling books and Bible studies are packed with wise and fascinating insights about friendship, loneliness and the need for community, sisterhood, and female camaraderie in today’s transitory society. She’s been praised by Carol Kent, who says "God’s anointing is definitely upon her," and Dr. James Dobson, who comments "I like the way Dee thinks." But most of Dee’s wisdom hasn’t been gleaned from library research or sociology classes—it has been earned by years of personal, sometimes painful, life experience.
Like the fictional girl-hero Anne of Green Gables, Dee grew up longing for a best friend. She had two older sisters and a tight-knit family, but Dee longed for someone who could be, in Anne’s words, "a bosom friend—an intimate friend, you know—a really kindred spirit to whom I can confide my inmost soul."
Dee met her husband, Steve, an orthopedic surgeon, at Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois. They came to Christ early in their marriage and were soon blessed with five children—two biological sons, one biological daughter, and two adopted daughters from Korea and Thailand.
Because of Steve’s demanding medical training and the years he spent working for the Public Health Service, the Brestin family moved eight times, to seven different states. "Each time," reflects Dee in The Friendships of Women, "I am amazed at how quickly my husband adjusts to our new environment. I, on the other hand, am like a full-grown, transplanted tree: my roots dangle and branches droop severely, and my family wonders whether I will, indeed, make it. Separating me from the women friends who have nourished me and strengthened me to grow straight and green is a severe trauma. I feel as if I am starving, and I pray God will connect me with new women friends before I wither and die."
As Dee raised her children, she observed interesting differences between her sons and her daughters. Her baby boys were fascinated by an electric mobile that rotated above their crib—whereas her baby daughter was unimpressed by gadgets of any kind and fussed until she was picked up by a human being. As they grew, the boys bonded with ever-changing groups of friends around common games, sports, and activities. Her daughter's friendships were far more intimate, emotionally charged, selective, and volatile. It was these observations, combined with her reading of Scripture and her own friendships and experiences that motivated Dee to write The Friendships of Women in 1988. The response to the book was overwhelming. "I feel like Dee knows me," remarked one woman, "I read feelings of my own that I’ve never heard anyone put into words." Soon, Dee wrote a sequel, We Are Sisters. It was received with equal enthusiasm. Recently she has collaborated with recording artist Kathy Troccoli to write Living in Love with Jesus, The Colors of His Love, and Falling in Love with Jesus.
In addition to being a bestselling author, Dee is a frequent speaker at seminars and women’s retreats, as well as a contributor to such magazines as Focus on the Family, Guideposts, and Today’s Christian Woman. She and her husband live in Nebraska, with her two youngest daughters. They belong to an Evangelical Free Church.