Fully Engaged: How to Do Less and Be More
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Don't you love the title of this book? I am ABYSMAL at being. Instead I move on do, do, do, and squeeze in a bit more doing. Just the other night I mentioned to my husband that I'd probably work less if I had one full time job than so many cobbled together part time gigs.
This book focuses in a few short pages in helping people figure out what really matters to them. What motivates me? What brings me energy and pleasure? It's when I focus on those things rather than everything else, that I can live in a sweet spot of what God created me to do. This book has several helpful exercises to take the theory of reading and help apply it to real life. Did I do those? Um, not yet. Will I do them? Probably. They looked valuable and worth investing a bit of time in.
I think it's important to live with an eye on whether I'm where God wants me. That will move as I live. Where God wanted me five years ago, is not where He wants me today. So books like this are helpful tools to evaluate and determine whether I'm in the right spots. This short book packs a punch as it challenges you to truly evaluate your life and how to weed out the extraneous things that steal your time and your ability to do what God wants you to.
June 18, 2011
Live with purpose
In today's high speed society of doing more and getting more this book calls for some self examination of what drives us. If you feel that life is speeding by, filled with things and action - yet at night you feel unfulfilled and longing for meaning this book is the one to read.
In his book Busacker explores how we can do less in life and be more - an oxymoron in the truest since. For we are taught from birth to have a desire for more, more, more. Somehow we become engaged in a race for more things, more activities, more work, more service and yet we end the day feeling that all is lost - nothing has meaning. Though we have achieved the next promotion or pay raise, though we have acquired the cars and the house, though we serve on every committee at church we still feel driven to do more in order to find the feeling of contentment we truly long for - that feeling of having achieved.
Busacker begins the book with a thought-provoking statement: " Life worth is the investment you make into and the return you receive". This is stated after the acknowledgement that most of us live by the net worth of ourselves as the standard of achievement rather than life worth. This seems simple enough but really is quite a radical thought in today's society. The simplicity is shockingly profound - we are worth what we invest (emotionally and spiritually) in life not what we gain in materials. Our worth is in God and in living out God's will in an active, totally sold out way!
In addressing how BE more by Doing Less Busacker explores 3 major themes:
1. Awareness: living life with purpose. Knowing your worth, sharing your story, and doing what matters.
2. Alignment: How does what you have and what you do match with what you want.
I especially like this section as it calls us to be actively, totally involved in all parts of our life - having a passion to enjoy every moment and make in worthwhile.
3. Action: How do you move forward.
The over all theme is to live life with a directed purpose - to get the most out of every moment and make every moment count.
I recently read on a friends Facebook wall the following statement, "What good is it to own my own business and get everything I've ever wanted when I'm never home to enjoy any of it - or too tired when I am home".
The comments following his were a sad statement of striving for net worth instead of life worth: "One day you'll enjoy all of it", "It will be worth it when you retire", "Hard work is a great thing - you've never shied away from a challenge".
As you see the drive is more, more, more. Yet my friend made a profoundly simple statement - What good is it when I'm never home to enjoy it?
When I read this book I immediately thought of him - net worth without life worth is really worthless. He has more and does more - but in the end actually has less because he can't be fully and purposefully engaged in making the most of his life.
Thank you B&B Communications for this review copy.
May 28, 2011
Reading,"Fully Engaged", was both a powerful, humbling and eye opening look at how we often fill our lives with busyness that often isn't so much as fruitful as time consuming and something that in the modern, 21st century is a challenging struggle for the Christian in the 21st century.
As the publisher's notes share about, "Fully Engaged", this book helps provide more of an insight of balancing life's competing demands while helping the individual balance a more fruitful relationship with our Father in Heaven and how often is it that we seem to get our priorities in life mix up?
This really affected the way I found myself approaching things and remembering the most basic priorities in life that seem so easy to remember, but so easy to forget that the things that come important first in life are:
2. Our spouses
3. Our Children, then
4. Our ministries and the demands of the world beyond our door,
but how often is it to forget that and find ourselves, instead, in a personal and sometimes worldly competition of wants and needs.
With "Fully Engaged" it truly, causes the reader to slow down and re-evaluate, "What is really important in life and what can wait".
Not really an easy answer for many.
Don't let the small size fool you, even at 144 pages, "Fully Engaged" challenges us to rethink the fast pace life that we can easily be lulled into and with so many distractions in the world competing for our attention, be it Facebook, Twitter, ministries, home, work, whatever it is, "Fully Engaged" shows us the need to slow down, to prioritize and in many cases, re-evaluate what is really important in our lives and what really isn't.
If you find yourself facing overwhelming schedules, or maybe thinking more is enough and craving to live and feel like you are living a fuller life, explore what "Fully Engaged" has to offer and how to look differently at what should and shouldn't be engaging our attention.
~~~Thank you to Audra Jennings of B&B Media for the opportunity to read and review this book; In exchange for my honest opinion, a complimentary copy of the book, had been sent.~~~
May 24, 2011
great encouragement with exercises
Ã¢ÂÂWe have a deep desire to live a life of significance and meaning Ã¢ÂÂ a life where we're fully engaged and satisfied.Ã¢ÂÂ (111)
Busacker wants you to be fully engaged in life. He wants you to do less and be more.
He invites you to ask yourself one question: Ã¢ÂÂWhat should I do with my life?Ã¢ÂÂ (18) If your answer is what you are doing right now, great. You are part of the one percent of people who are fulfilled by what you are doing. You are fully engaged. But if you are in the other 99 percent, this book is for you. Ã¢ÂÂGod uses ordinary people like you and me to do astonishing things if, and only if, we are fully engaged.Ã¢ÂÂ (24)
His book is divided into three sections: awareness, alignment, and action.
Busacker wants you to be aware of your life worth: Ã¢ÂÂthe investment you make into and the return you receive from all life dimensions.Ã¢ÂÂ (31) Your life worth reflects your spiritual wealth and engagement. It is a realization that relationships, health, work, hobbies, learning and faith are all related to your life worth. (He has an assessment you can complete.) Busaker has a section of questions for the reader to answer to discover and articulate one's life story. That includes attitude, experience, important lessons, outlook and understanding.
He helps readers understand their values which, in turn, determine choices. Clarity of values empowers one to say Ã¢ÂÂyesÃ¢ÂÂ to what matters and Ã¢ÂÂnoÃ¢ÂÂ to what is unimportant. He provides the process to discover values.
In the second section, Busaker wants the reader to align values to what you are doing with your life. A sense of calling is when you know you are doing with your life exactly what you should be doing. Ã¢ÂÂCalling is the powerful intersection of passion and motivated abilities.Ã¢ÂÂ (73) He again provides an exercise to determine the intersection of your passion and your giftedness. He has an exercise to help you identify your life dreams.
Busacker is ruthless when it comes to our idolatrous attachment to technology (such as email). He reveals the detriment of excessive business. Again, he has an exercise to help you determine which activities to drop (pace, presence, promise).
Ã¢ÂÂAdversity introduces us to ourselves.Ã¢ÂÂ (112) Ã¢ÂÂ...[T]he seeds of consistent full engagement are forged in the moments that test us to the depth of our being.Ã¢ÂÂ (113) Failure may be a defining moment setting you on the course to full engagement. He provides an exercise to determine your defining moments.
Busacker reminds us that we need to quiet our mind from the distraction of worry. We should start each day with the quiet conversation with ourselves and with God. We need Ã¢ÂÂto seek out God's wisdom and counsel first before we step into the fray.Ã¢ÂÂ (124) He encourages us to seek out the wise counsel of others, a support team.
Busacker says we should be generous. We should look at generosity as a natural response to being richly blessed. He helps determine how and where to give generously and provides an exercise.
Busacker encourages us not to wait. Live boldly, Ã¢ÂÂchoosing to make good on all the talents and promise you were born with...[it] empowers you to enjoy the satisfaction, success, and excitement that comes with a fully engaged life.Ã¢ÂÂ (147)
I received an egalley of this book from The B&B Media Group on behalf of the publishers for the purpose of this review.
May 4, 2011