I very much enjoyed this refreshing, candid, honest book that deals with the very delicate dynamics of women in Christian friendships. Would reccommend for anyone who struggles with finding a deep friendship, has been hurt by a close friend, or who counsels women who have these issues. Well done!
Friendship for Grown-ups by Lisa Whelchel is the latest book I've recieved from Thomas Nelson for reviewing the book. But I'm having a bit of a time trying to explain my thoughts on this one well.The book can probably best be summarized directly from Lisa in the first chapter:"It is not a "how-to" book on making friends and creating lasting relationships. That is a worthy book, but I'm not qualified to write that one. Instead, I will simply share my story and hope that you will find yourself drawn in to join me on this journey."And I think that's sort of what frustrated me a bit about the book.The stories are great... Lisa does wonderful at telling her story, and truly does draw you into them. She seems really open about both positives and negatives, to the point at times of making me wonder if she was nervous about the other parties involved reading them for the first time.But it just sort of seemed like it needed that extra informational approach added in as well. She does briefly explain a bit about the lessons learned in segments outside of the story... normally involving a lot of quotes from other books.But it left me wishing that she would have pulled in Henry Cloud to co-write the book and take her awesome storytelling to the next level. Which is sort of weird to say, given that I've never actually read any of Henry's books (yet), but he's rather frequently the one giving the more analytical discussions of things by means of lots of quotes from him. We sort of needed more of that to complement the real life lessons.It's an interesting read. I guess it just struck me as a seeming a bit more biographical than it could have been, given it seems to have a clear aim of being helpful to others in their relationships.
Lisa Whelchel's latest book, Friendship for Grown-Ups; What I Missed & Learned Along the Way is a very inspirational and eye-opening book. In addition to revealing her personal journey from childhood star ("Blair" on The Facts of Life) to pastor's wife, homeschooling mother, and public speaker, Lisa links the benefits of pursuing a true, intimate friendship here on Earth with God's Grace and love. As an avid reader herself, Lisa is able to use insights from other inspirational writers within the context of her points and ideas to highlight the importance of growing deeper in our friendships and not simply settling for a surface relationship.The woman's group at my church recently hosted Lisa Whelchel, and one of the topics she spoke on was friendship. She was able to be open, honest, and inspirational all at once. As I was reading her book, it was almost as if we were two friends chatting about the hidden aspects of our deepest desires, instead of me simply reading a book. Often I would find myself thinking "other people feel that way too?" "I'm not alone in this?" or, simply feeling validated in my desire to be fully understood. She also talks about the importance of knowing yourself and being true to yourself. Whelchel was lucky to be able to take a two year break from writing to fully explore friendship and how to become completely open and vulnerable to the people in her life. By reading her experiences, you are able to gain valuable insight for your own life and relationships without the luxury of taking a sabbatical.
I enjoyed Lisa's book on Friendships for Grownups. Understandably, being a celebrity, and being a young celebrity, she had always been cautious about making friends. Friends - old or new - were allowed into certain chambers of her heart. Any efforts to come a little closer to the "real" Lisa, found the door being shut and locked firmly.Finally realizing her need to for true friends, she turned the other way and opened all the doors to her heart. This new friend found Lisa to be "too needy" and Lisa found herself questioning her heart all over again. In comes God's gift to Lisa in the form of Ney Bailey. Gently but firmly, they started on the journey of exploring a true Godly friendship. Lisa shares how Ney was the person she needed to be reassured that it's okay to be "needy" - just that some friends can only handle certain levels of neediness due to their own lives. Friends don't expect you to be perfect and receiving is just as important as giving.It reminded me of what someone once shared about relationships being like a ball of string. When you meet someone new, you hand them a piece of string. If they treat it with respect and dignity, you may be comfortable giving them some more "string". If not, then you take your string back (it may be dirty or frayed), and give it to someone else to try again.This is not meant to be a self-help book. Lisa shares her journey on developing deeper and meaningful friendships with other women and hopes that others can benefit from it. Definitely worth reading. I plan to use some of her thoughts and suggestions to enhance some of my own friendships!
This is only the second book Ive read that Lisa Whelchel has written. I decided to review this book (from BookSneeze) because Im in need of some non-family female friendship and I wanted to see what she had to say on the topic.Though I obviously didnt go through childhood on a popular TV show, I have gone through things in my life that caused me to put up a HUGE wall that very few people have been allowed to penetrate. There are very large chunks of my childhood that I cant remember at all a defense mechanism, those close to me seem to think .Im not afraid to admit that the Lord used this book to point out that wall to me. And to show me that He wants to tear it down. Its ok to not let every Tom, Dick, and Harry into the deep parts of your heart. That should be reserved for safe people. People you can trust. But to not reach out and open up to the safe people you DO have in your life? Thats not good.Another thing I learned in this book, though it wasnt a huge focus point, was that its totally ok if your close friends dont live near you. Lisa Whelchel has quite a few close friends that she only sees a few times a year. Thats part of the beauty of technology. Text messages, phone calls, letters, emails, packages these are all perfectly acceptable ways to keep in close contact with those you grow close with.This book definitely gave me a LOT to think and pray on. Another awesome part of the book is the practical tips she included in the back. Like keeping all-occasion and blank cards on hand so theyre ready to be filled in and mailed out whenever.Overall, this is an excellent book! It doesnt talk down to the reader. I felt like she was right in my living room with me, having a discussion over a cup of tea about what shes learned.