"Friendship for Grown-ups What I Missed & Learned Along the Way" by Lisa Whelchel is the first book that I have received for review from Thomas Nelson Publishers.Throughout this book, Lisa shares personal and intimate stories of her own quest for friendship and the understanding of who she was, how she got there and what she must do to become a spiritually and emotionally healthy individual capable of receiving and giving friendship. Lisa is honest, open and vulnerable.As I read Lisa's new book, I found so many of her points striking a chord within me as I recognized my own need to learn to develop healthy, strong and reciprocal friendships with other women.Included in "Friendships for Grown-ups..." are discussion questions and other helpful additions which makes this book ideal for individuals or small group study. The book was easy to follow and kept my interest throughout. I could identify with much of Lisa's personal story and experiences with past friendships and her desire to have true lasting adult friendships.Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
Thomas Nelson Publishing has given me an opportunity to review a complimentary copy of their new book Friendship for Grown-Ups by Lisa Whelchel. After reading her book, Creative Correction, I thought I'd give this one a whirl.One thing that appealed to me was the subject of the book could be helpful for me at this time in my life. I have had very few close girl friends in my life time. Because of that my review is going to be more personal in nature. This book was one of those "I could have written most of it myself." Except the celebrity part, of course.I loved it! Couldn't put it down.It is an easy read, not a "how-to", but practical. I read it in one evening, gleaned a ton of insights and would recommend this book to any woman whether or not they have good friendships or desire to have a few close friends.Lisa is real, open and sometimes raw in her account of the struggle for true, deep friendships in her life. If you long for a true friend, this is a great book to help you see through someone else's eyes how she learned to navigate the world of women friends...which I think most of us know full well, isn't easy. We need to grow up.While this isn't a "how-to" she does have a section in the back with practical suggestions from each chapter that help you build the friendships you have, or seek out new ones if you need them.The best thing I can say is that you will feel like you have a friend holding your hand, so to speak, sharing her sorrows and joys of building friendships as you seek to develop deeper friendships yourself. There were so many points that struck home.I walked away feeling "normal" and that's a great feeling! It's not all my fault, another great feeling! And I can do this, so can you.I would recommend this book and hope that you enjoy it very much.
Do you struggle in your friendships? I know I have from time to time. Lisa Whelchel ("Blair" from the TV show "Facts of Life") has written a book about her struggles with dealing with friendship. Most of the book is her story of giving and receiving frienship. The last part of the book has self-help sections such as discussion questions, practical steps for developing friendships, and conversation prompts.I enjoyed reading the book, but I have to admit that for me there were just too many stories of her frienships and how she dealt with them. Maybe they were just too honest. I found it hard to read about the ups and downs. But it did give me hope in the sense that I am not the only one that has struggles in this area. We all go through positive and negative relationships in our lives. I appreciate Lisa's candid descriptions of the friendships that she has been a part of. She is a huge fan of Henry Cloud's books. I am, too. So I could totally relate to what she was saying since I am familiar with the concepts in his books. Lisa does give advice and ideas on how to grow friendships.
This book is exactly what the title 'endears' to say. The book itself is very endearing, as is Lisa, aka "Blair" from the famous show "Facts of Life". Lisa, like most of us as human beings, wanted to be embraced & loved as she was & is, the good, the bad, & the ugly, no matter what state she was in, but she realized that, that isn't always the case, and true friendship is truly hard to find in today's society, even more-so given the background that she grew up in. She was a child star in hollywood, so this made her even more vulnerable and scrutinized as a person, let alone as a friend. What liked most about this book, was Lisa's true heart and warmness felt throughout the book, and how at the end of the book, she has three appendixes; 1) You Gave Me a Friend: A poem to the Lord, thanking Him for the many different types of friends that He has blessed her with. For me-This was to show the reader that sometimes we may think we don't have or need anyone, but when we really think about it, we do have many blessings from Him, and these could also be the types of friends that our hearts truly desire & yearn for. 2) Practical Steps for Developing and Growing Friendships: this is exactly what the title states, "steps". and Lisa even states taking "baby steps" in doing so. 3)Conversation Prompts: This is exactly what the title states, and Lisa says to take one and start it off with a conversation, then just see where it takes you & your friend(s), she says "to follow it's lead, and to discover the thrill of intimate friendship." I truly enjoyed this book from Lisa Whelchel. It is not the first book of hers that I have read, and I imagine it won't be the last either! She is truly an inspiration to women both single & married. She just has a real knack for drawing the reader in with her warmth and honesty. As per FTC guidelines, I must state that I did receive a complimentary copy of the book from Thomas Nelson Publishers.
If you grew up watching "The Facts of Life" then you can understand why Lisa Whelchel suffers from an identity crisis. No matter where she goes or what she does, she'll always be seen through the eyes of Blair. And while there were perks to being in the business, Lisa also learned to form a protective barrier that kept her from good, healthy friendships.This book isn't really about the author's youth, though she references it several times. Rather it is a personal, vulnerable story of how Lisa identified her insecurities and began to address them.I wasn't in love with this book but I do think that it will be very helpful to a specific segment of the population - particularly women who desire deep, intimate friendships. Some of the best information is found in the appendix where you can find helpful and very practical steps and prompts.In an attempt to provide full disclosure: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.