Published by Thomas Nelson in 2010 and released as a Woman of Faith book (Lisa is a WoF speaker) this hardcover book is 222 pages and a quick read with lasting lessons.I grew up watching Lisa Whelchel on "Facts of Life," and enjoyed reading about her interactions with her cast-mates in Friendship for Grown-ups: What I Missed & Learned Along the Way, but this book is much more than a memoir. Lisa uses her unique experiences as an actor, author, speaker and pastor's wife to share the difficulties she's had in having vulnerable friendships, how God brought her to a point of finally bringing down her wall of protection, and her successes and stumblings as she's learned to be a true friend.Using real life examples, Lisa shares her earliest attempts at friendships and the perfectionism that led to people-pleasing and wall-building. I learned a lot from her vulnerability and insights.Through her interactions with friends that I know only from books and conferences (Marilyn Meberg and Jennifer Rothschild, to name two) I have been challenged to take a handful of my own friendships to a new level of depth.I appreciate Lisa sharing her failings in friendships, as well, because who among us does not have at least one relationship or friendship where we look back and say, "How did THAT happen?"In addition to her own story, anecdotes, and testimony, she also includes three appendices, including a list of practical steps and conversation starters. The practical steps seemed so basic at first, and then I realized that I NEED to do several of these things in my own friendships. The conversation starters included questions I would never have thought to ask, even of my very closest friends.This book is a blessing, and a must read for any woman who has every needed a friend, wanted as friend, or needed to be a friend.As a blogger for Thomas Nelson, I received a free copy of this book in exchange for a honest review.
Of course I was originally drawn to this book because it is written by an actress from one of my favorite 80s t.v. shows, The Facts of Life. Lisa Welchel is best known for playing Blair, the rich, spoiled, self obsessed one of the girls. However, it quickly becomes clear that Lisa Welchel is not much like the character she played on t.v. In fact, Lisa is obviously extremely self aware and striving to be and do all that God has planned for her. I personally have not seen a book that so specifically addresses the topic of making and strengthening adult female relationships. Lisa takes a disarmingly raw and honest look at female friendships, what makes them work, and how to strengthen them. She bares the ups and downs of her own struggle with building friendships. The examples she gives of both good and bad relationships in her own life is at times emotional and I applaud her willingness to be so open about them. She analyses her friendships to help the reader be able to do the same. For example, Lisa spends much time on what it means to have a safe friend, and what experiences she has had when a friend she thought was safe turns out to be less than. She explains not only why safe friends are important to have, but also how to be one yourself. I think this is a rare gem of a book, especially if you struggle with connecting on a deeper level with the female friends in your life. Best of all, this book is extremely applicable in that Lisa includes both an appendix with a list of practical steps for developing and growing friendships, and conversation prompts to help take frienships to the next level of intimacy. Disclosure: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, Part 255
This was a nice, easy to read book for me. I enjoyed the subject matter of making and keeping friends. The book itself is written mostly from personal stories. What I particularly liked was at the end of the book, there were study questions and then two appendixes. I found these better than the content of the book itself. The first appendix basically covers the same topics as each chapter, but in one or two sentences and in bullet point style. It includes tips and ideas for you from each chapter such as "Keep a box of assorted occasions and blank cards on hand," or "Ask God to provide the kind of friend you are looking for." The second appendix is actually just pages of conversation starters, or open-ended questions to share with a friend.I was happy to see these simple helps at the end of the book, mostly because in her stories she uses language like "dear," "sweetheart," and"how is your spirit today?" I know I just don't use these on a daily basis so I was beginning to find it unrealistic. The appendixes were a great addition.One other note, this book is definitely written from a Christian perspective to a Christian perspective. It only covers girl friendships, assuming that you are already working on your relationship with God and family.
I recently joined a new group called booksneeze. They send you books to review. I was totally excited because they had the book, Friendship for Grown-Ups What I Missed and Learned Along the Way, By Lisa Whelchel. This is a woman that I admire and therefore I wanted to read this book.When I got the book in the mail I was a little overwhelmed. Informative books always take me a long time to read and sometimes I get bored along the way. However, as I opened the book up and read, I was surprised at how easy the book was to read. Lisa provides the story of her own journey through developing meaningful and safe friendships while providing lessons along the way that I could use in my own journey.What I appreciated most about Lisa's book was her candor and honesty. She didn't have to admit her faults. She didn't have to tell the reader about the times she messed up big. However, she did and that made the book more authentic to me. I am more willing to listen to her because of her being honest with me, a perfect stranger. Lisa's book made me excited about finding my own safe friend. This is a book I would HIGHLY recommend other women to read. I did receive this book free but was not required to write a positive review.
What a book! Lisa Whelchel, who I grew up knowing as Blair, from the T.V. series, The Facts Of Life, has written an amazing book on friendship! Throughout the course of the book Lisa brings us on a journey of her adult relationships, she shows by example how to navigate through the sometimes murky water of female communication, detailing the trials and triumphs from her own life. I was intriged by her explanation of why so many of us Christian women prefer a facade of perfectionism in our marriage, family, and life. Lisa shows raw emotion, and gives strong practical instruction for developing good healthy relationships. I received this complimentary copy for purpose of review from Thomas Nelson, and I could not put it down...definitely 5 stars in my book! Thank you Lisa for such an open honest book!