The Four Seasons of Marriage: Which Season of Marriage are You in?
Great wedding present or book for couples to read
As a pre-marriage counselor for our church and someone whoÃ¢ÂÂs attended many marriage seminars, I believe this book is a must read book for all married couples. My husband and I have heard Gary Chapman speak on the 5 love languages and have insisted that any couple we do pre-marriage counseling with must figure out their love languages so they can fulfill their partnerÃ¢ÂÂs need for love. This book goes a step further to discuss and explain the emotions, attitudes, actions and climate of the relationship for the four seasons of marriage: winter, spring, summer, and fall with a suggestion of the positive side to the problem. Then it gives 16 rows of 4 feelings each for the two spouses to give 1 check mark per row so you can see for yourself what season of life youÃ¢ÂÂre each in. Once you acknowledge your scores, Chapman gives 7 strategies to get into the spring or summer seasons if youÃ¢ÂÂre not there. He discusses dealing with past failures, choosing a winning attitude, speaking your spouseÃ¢ÂÂs love language, empathetic listening, the joy of helping your spouse succeed, maximizing your differences, the power of positive influence, and praying. There is a Q and A section and a study guide. In every section Chapman gives example after example of couples who were desperate and found that by using the 7 strategies they caused their marriage to take a sharp turn away from divorce and into the joy everyone craves. Whether youÃ¢ÂÂre struggling in your marriage or enjoying it, this is a great book to read. I guarantee youÃ¢ÂÂll find something helpful to make your marriage even more delightful.
August 12, 2013
From the publisher's webpage:"The seasons of marriage come and go. Each one holds the potential for emotional health and happiness, and each one has its challenges. The purpose of this book is to describe these recurring seasons of marriage, help you and your spouse identify which season your marriage is in, and show you how to enhance your marriage in all four seasons."
I've enjoyed Gary Chapman's books. They've really helped to change my perspective on things. There are different times in our lives and in our marriages. This book will give you practical and insightful techniques in helping strengthen your marriage.
September 1, 2013
Incredibly Practical Book for All Couples
As with other books I've read by Gary Chapman, I was impressed by <i>The Four Seasons of Marriage</i>. Dr. Chapman strikes a delicate balance between explaining his belief that marriages journey through "seasons," practical helps for couples in each of those seasons, action steps for improving your marriage, and Scripture to provide the biblical basis for all of his thoughts. I found this to be an incredibly practical book--though many of the suggestions will not be easy ones to put into practice. I also appreciated the focus on personal responsibility, rather than blaming one's spouse for everything that's wrong in a relationship. This book is a must-read for all couples--regardless of how long you've been married or what season you find yourself in. [5 stars]
August 25, 2013
A must read for anyone married or engaged
This is a must read book for anyone who is married or engaged! In it Gary Chapman likens the stages of a marriage to the seasons of the year. The spring is a time of newness and delight, summer a time of warmth and beauty, fall is chilly with leaves falling and winter a time of coldness and despair. After giving examples of couples in each season and a checklist to determine where a marriage is, Gary Chapman then gives strategies to enhance and improve a marriage. My husband and I have been doing pre-marriage mentoring (for engaged couples) in our church for many years and this will now be one of the books we recommend for our couples. I highly recommend it, whether your marriage has just begun or if you've been married for 25 years, whether your marriage is great or could use some help.
August 14, 2013