I bought this book and the companion ("For Women Only") for my boyfriend for Christmas. I heard they were good, but I was nervous to give them as part of his gifts. He actually LOVED it!
I read "For Men Only" first and wrote out notes/thoughts throughout the book where things were important to me. He did the same in "For Women Only." The books explain so much in ways that I had not thought about explaining! We will now swap them and read the books with the personalized notes in them.
I would definitely purchase these books regardless of your relationship status or age. If anything, they are great conversation starters -- and easy to read!
Outstanding insight into the women's way of thinking, rationalizing, feelings, and emotions. It was very succint, clear and direct. Easy reading book which I could not put down. Every man seeking to salvage, sustain, and/or improve his relationship with a woman should read this book.
I enjoyed reading this book as it is filled with insightful details about the inner life (or might I say confusing life) of a woman. When my wife first showed me this book I knew it was a must. I have read many marriage books, so I thought to myself "I won't learn much", man was I WRONG! I learned so much that I am going to be reading it again & probably even visiting a few chapters a 3rd time (mainly the chapter on listening). I found that the area I thought I was an expert in; I was not even close to understanding (can you guess what I am thinking of?). Have you ever had your wife tell you that you aren't listening when you have listened and are now trying to "solve" her "problem"? I sure have, but there is hope! I learned that she really doesn't want me to fix the problem, she wants me to:
Give her my full physical attention
Give her my full mental attention
Listen for the right thing (most of us guys think: I should filter out all the emotion and listen to the facts. But we have it backwards. We need to filter out the facts and focus on how it makes her feel.)
Lastly acknowledge what her feeling is and affirm/sympathize with it (even if we disagree with her thoughts)
Here is a warning it contained:
Don't Try These at Home!
"How not to listen"
Tell her she's overreacting,
Question her version of the facts,
Wonder aloud about the time of the month
Ask her to quit crying, or
Offer spiritual correction ("are you sure you're not just envious?")
Overall it was VERY worth reading (so much so, that I bought the companion book: For Women Only. for my wife). It even comes with a helpful quick start guide. I hope you take the time to invest in your marriage and read it.
Women. Who can understand them? Well.... according to "For Men Only" we all can. Turns out that authors Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn believe we can finally begin to make sense of the maze known as women. With tons of research and difficult questions asked, this book strives to give men the road map they need to navigating that special someone in their life.
This is truly a book in which the authors don't rely upon their own point of views. They have done massive research and surveying in order to provide the most accurate information possible. At many times the results of the research and surveys were completely contradictory to what I would have believed. In fact, the responses of many women will most likely catch most guys off guard. All too many times we as guys think that women just naturally think and process in the same manner we do. Research proves otherwise.
For any guy out there desiring to better understand and relate to that special woman in his life this is a must read. With an unabashed desire to speak the truth and the research there to support it, "For Men Only" truly strives to provide the most accurate picture of the opposite sex possible.
I received this book for free from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.